Hi

[Justwanttobehappy30]

Hey,

So im new to this kind of stuff. I am feeling alone and feel like i have no one to talk to or to even just say what's on my mind.

Im newly married and it feels like since we have been married its been a downward spiral and not happy and loving life, could be something to do with his constant headaches however i feel so disconnected from him.

He talks to anyone and everyone else but me.

I guess i thought id try this out first and hopefully find some comfort and ideas on how to work through my own head.

Cheers

[geoff]

Hello Justwanttobehappy, and a warm welcome and although I'm not a doctor it would seem that your headaches are caused by many different factors, especially if married life has suddenly changed for you, which is always something we never expected.

Why he talks with everyone, except to you, he may have his own reasons, but with a new wife you would expect him to be so proud of you that he'd involve you in the conversations, that's exactly what happened after my marriage, I wouldn't leave her side.

It's a shame it's been a downward spiral, you would think there would be much to show off and he would be so proud of your recent marriage which means you, but to ignore you is so impolite and perhaps have you thought about joining the group he's talking and embarrass him.

I'd like to know how he behaves when the two of you are at home as this is important to your comment.

When you are able to get back to us would be lovely.

Geoff.

[Justwanttobehappy30]

Hi geoff,

Thank you for replying means alot.

When we are at home his on his phone talking on snapchat. There is minimal conversation. Which this makes me feel unwanted, unworthy, unloved.

We had a discussion on the weekend about his headaches n how his been lately eg.shutting me out, talking to a friend of ours etc. He touched on why he talks to her because he says unless you can relate to or been through something its hard to talk to someone which makes sense but i didnt know he had demons from his past haunting him so whilst i may not be able to relate i still feel i needed to know what was going on without the detail.

im a mess in my head sorry if i dont make alot of sense i just dont know where or how to start making sense of everything.

Talk soon

[quirkywords]

Hello

Justwanttobehappy

I too welcome you to the forum .

I can sense the frustration snd disappointment In your words.
You mention his behaviour has changed since you have been married so the headaches started after you were married or did he have them before. Before you married did you feel loved and did you confide in each other..?

when you share your life with another you tend to tell them all about yourself even if they do not understand. I told my partner I had bipolar on our first date as I wanted him to know.

Your posts make a lot of sense and I can see you care a lot and are trying to work out how to cope.

I am wondering would he consider taking you along to his doctor if he has one so that the doctor can explain about the headaches and how you can help.

Can you explain that while you can’t relate you wish to find out more about his headaches,

I too am interested to talk and listen to you.

Thanks for reaching out.

[Justwanttobehappy30]

Thank you quirkywords for your reply.

Well ive only been made aware of how bad they are for about 3/4 weeks now and apparently he did have them before we got married which now explains why he had red face in our photos and why our honeymoon didnt feel like a honeymoon.

Yeah i did feel loved i didnt feel the way im feeling now.

I would assume the same about sharing regardless of if the other person had been through it ive shared some of my past and he hasnt been through it.

He makes the appointments after work so like on his way home which makes it hard because im still at work then have to travel home so i miss them. The doctor cant explain them so he has sent him for referral but as its a specialist we cant get in until 22nd july which makes it harder.

Look forward to speaking with you soon