Hello. I am new.

[tld123]

I came here as I am finding it hard to cope with a lot of things happening in my life right now. I am usually the strong one who HAS to keep everything together but I am broken.

[tld123]

Hi Missep,

Ironically, in one of his "moments" he claimed he didn't feel loved by us, when all we have done, is support him. I know the past year and a bit has been A LOT for everyone and as such, has caused personal "shift" in each and every one of us. EVERYONE has been affected by Covid alone even without other things that happen. The fact he doesn't even realise how much it has all affected US TOO, as individuals, is heartbreaking.

Our daughters feel completely and utterly abandoned and betrayed by him. We have always been "ride or die" together as a family for 20 years and then one day, he just bolts and leaves the 3 of us dazed and confused.

Also yes, have sought assistance from MHP's and it's circular and it's actually like, they don't have anything but "post it" assumptions to make as to just HOW I am feeling. I came HERE to interact with people who have actually walked a mile in the same shoes, rather than just pigeonholed people into an alphabetical box, based purely on their theoretical or even "hypothetical" understanding OF such issues.

[Chunty]

Hello dear Lady, Please believe that the community in the forum do care and understand that you are broken with having to cope with so much happening at once in your life. You have to think of yourself and follow Sophia,s advice and talk to a counsellor on the support line. They are fabulous caring people and will guide and support and you. You are struggling and it is hard to take so much on board when you dont feel well yourself. I do commend you for taking the initiative to still be involved with the community. Take care Dear Lady and listen to Sophia.Bye😙🍒

[tld123]

Hello Chunty,

I have already interacted with the phone support people Sophia suggested and THEY suggested I sign up here.

[Chunty]

Hello tld123. That,s great, you are doing your best. The main thing is to feel you are not alone and that you have the opportunity to know that the community and I do care for you and give you moral support. I do feel it is good to know that others are aware of your emotions and the difficulties you have to deal with. Personanaly, some of my difficulties and situation, cant be changed, but I found that since I have been with BB has been a great thing as I dont feel so alone. Did the support counsellors suggest any referrals to ease you of your struggles? Have they suggested a Psychologist? Try to be kind to yourself and just remember we do understand and care for you. Keep on being in touch. Ok?😍😉 Forgive my spellings.

[tld123]

Yes they suggested that but then found out too, that I am a psychologist myself and have been since 1996. I suppose it makes it difficult for me also at times like this as I KNOW the "advice" like the back of my hand. As such all I am hearing is what I would say to others and I have realised clearly now that not all advice "fits all". That in itself has also made its own conundrum within me as I have just in the past, treated people in a "one size" situation as I (feel) is the case too with me.

[ChrisBr]

Hi tld123 I'm new here today. Sorry to hear how you feel but you are not alone. I have been having health issues - major fatigue - for 8 weeks. This has left me feeling severely anxious and depressed. Can't eat or sleep and feel broken as well. Off to GP again today hopefully for some answers or relief from all this. Such a horrible time!

[missep123]

Hi tld123,

I hear you, especially since you are a psychologist and you mentioned knowing the advice well. I really think that in this case you are the expert in your own experience, I hope that at the least we can provide you with an open space here on the forums to interact with all of us and that you will feel supported