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[AJDalton]

Hi there.

Im a mess! I have gone back to an old job to which i had 10 years ago to which is the easiest job i had. I feel all the messy emotions everyday. I feel frustrated and lousy. I have been diagnosed woth Chronic Fatigue, I have had Asthma since I was born and depression in the past two years on and off. I keep losing family members and dont really go out clubbing or anything. My anxiety always makes me feel lousy and i cant focus nor think straight. Help!

[james1]

Hello AJ

Welcome! It sounds like you're feeling really down on yourself.

It's okay to go back to old jobs, even if you feel like you should be beyond them. Your health comes first after all, and from what I have seen in friends, chronic fatigue can be super debilitating. It really sucks that you've been diagnosed with that.

You also mentioned losing family members and not going clubbing. Would you like to tell us a little bit more about this? It really sounds like you're feeling quite isolated which can be really hard. I remember when I lost basically half of my friends after a break up, I really struggled then. I imagine the chronic fatigue can make it even harder, especially with anxiety and depression.

James

[AJDalton]

Hi. I have recently a dear close friend of 10 year and also just lately wanting to get back into going out dancing (helps my anxiety. I feel like im stuck in the same pattern.

[james1]

Hello AJDalton,

Sorry I think I may be misunderstanding what you have written. Did something happen with your close friend?

This suggestion may sound a bit silly, but how do you feel about dancing inside your own room? That can really help get rid of that excess anxious energy that builds up, and may even make it easier to go out. It's hard to do when you have chronic fatigue, but at least being at home means you can crash if you need to.

It sucks feeling stuck. I used to feel really stuck in a cycle of feeling bad, doing nothing because I felt bad, then feeling worse for not doing anything. What really helped me was to talk to others about how I felt, then try and use their support as energy to break the cycle. What is the pattern you feel stuck in?

James

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi AJDalton,

Just thought I'd stop by and give you a bit of a welcome!

It sounds like you're going through a lot right now with going back to your old job, Chronic Fatigue, depression, anxiety and Asthma. I can imagine that it'd be pretty overwhelming!

What do you think might be helpful to focus on in the forums? There's soo much going on so I think it would be tricky to try and tackle all your thoughts and feelings about them all - is there something that we can start on?

You mentioned dancing was really helpful for you so maybe it's worth starting that up again. James mentioned dancing in your room which can definitely tie in with your fatigue so you can go at your own pace and stop when you need to.

Hope that you enjoy being here.

[Doolhof]

Hi AJDalton,

I too welcome you to the community here. Are you saying that you have recently lost a friend of 10 years? If so then I am very sorry for this sad event.

Have you been told much about Chronic Fatigue and what might help you? Are you seeing a DR. who is able to help you with this?
Like already mentioned, you have a lot of issues to deal with. Is it possible for you to sit down and write down headings such as "Chronic Fatigue" "Anxiety" "Work" "Mt Friend" and under each heading write what you can do to help yourself in each situation.

By breaking issues down, we enable ourselves to have an idea of how we can manage them better and more effectively.

Hope this helps a little. Cheers from Dools