Beautifulsoul,
Hello and welcome to the forum. This is a caring , supportive, friendly and
understanding place.
It seems like your partner is finding it hard to cope , and the
fact he is pushing you away. is not only affecting him, but
you as well.
When I was depressed I would push people away and then complain no one liked me or wanted to be around me- such a vicious circle. The problem was I felt so worthless and that I was upsetting my loved one so much that I nwated to hide away. the fact was I needed them more than ever but I could not see that.
One thing you can do for him, for yourself and for your relationship is to explain to him what concerns you , and how they are affecting you.
If he responds to this by saying he's hopeless let him know that this is not the case, that
you're worried he's not coping, and that it's ok for people struggling in the way he is to need
more help and support - this does not mean there's anything the matter with him. You can offer to make appoints and go with him if he wants that.
Finally, you may need to find help for
yourself. You are in a very stressful position .
It may be helpful that you have
someone to offer support to you.
Also someone can be supportive while
you encourage your husband to obtain the
help he needs.
Sometimes chatting to the Beyondblue support service on 1300
22 4636 is very helpful.
Thanks again for sharing your story.
Quirky
