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Hi. I'm a 38 year old mum and this past year has been so hard. My partner is always belittling me, calling me names and anything he does wrong he blames me for. I've found out some shocking truths about him that's made me feel sick. He constantly lies and takes no responsibility for anything.
My eldest daughter a few months back became unconscious and I had to perform cpr. I already have ptsd from my own life threatening asthma attacks and this was even worse as it's my baby.
My life already feels overwhelming sometimes and now to make things worse we've been kicked out of our house. Apparently my partner owes $17,000 that I didn't know about and now he's once again trying to pin it on me. It's my fault because he has to buy food every week for our family so he reckons he can't afford it.
I feel depressed all the time. I was in coles the other day and just about broke down.
I feel like nothing is going to get better despite the fact I know that's not true.
I just feel helpless and lost right now.
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hello and welcome.
Sorry it has taken a while for you to receive a reply.
And I’m really sorry to hear everything you have been going through. It sounds quite overwhelming, and it’s understandable you would feel feel helpless.
You’ve shown immense strength already, especially in caring for your daughter. It’s important to reach out for support, whether from friends, family, or a professional who can help you navigate these challenges. Is this something you feel you could do?
Take care of yourself. Listening to you...
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Dear new member~
I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum, a place where others who have faced very hard times will help as best the can by sharing experiences.
I do hope your eldest daughter is now ok, it is an extremely worrying situation for a parent to be in. I can sympathize with your asthma too, my first wife had to deal wiht it, puffers and neutralizer at home, occasional visits to ED when the condition did not respond. A hard thing but fortunately she managed.
Your partner sounds toxic. To blame you for everything he did wrong, belittle you and call you names, lying and the other matters you mention. Now you are evicted too. No doubt he wil try to blame that debt on you as well.
Frankly all that is abuse and is harmful to you to live with it. It can wear you down to the point you believe you are stuck with it. It is his htat cam make you feel there is no hope, and find life so depressing. As many have found it does get better, particularly wiht assistance of others.
In this situation I wonder what you are planning to do, after all it is not just your welfare but that of your children too. To have an example of an abusive relationship would leave them without the skills and attitudes learned in a proper loving home
If you have not done so already I'd suggest you contact 1800RESPECT, who are the experts in abuse and what actions you can take. They are competent and friendly (and free). No doubt they will help direct you and you children to emergency commendation if you need it.
Do you mind me asking if you have people in your life to support you -and the kids? A family member or a friend perhaps? Maybe if you do they can assist with practical matters, and if they are not in a position to do so thay can listen as you talk, they do not have to 'fix', just care
I would very much like it if you felt like returning and say how you are managing.
Croix