My ex partner is in denial about sexual assault allegations that she & another woman made to me about an ex partner of hers. We have a young daughter together & we have been through family court which I initiated. With the support of an ICL I was able to have a restriction placed upon her from bringing her ex into contact with our daughter. I did this because her denial was so strong that she started to call him a good friend shortly after he was released from Jail into her parents care & what may have been a disclosure from our 3yr old daughter that he may have done something to her as well around the same time.
When we first met she said that he would mentally abuse her & her parents would always take his side, belittle her & claim she was lying, apparently he was like a son to her dad. Years later after having our child a traumatic event in her life triggered a repressed memory & she disclosed he sexually assaulted her. I did not handle it well & jumped very fast to talk with her father as I feared for her & our daughter's safety. When I did so she shifted & said that she was uncomfortable with me instead to stop me. The disclosure was buried behind our subsequent breakup as I was gaslit & constantly forced to defend myself from constant lies & a new twisted reality in which nothing made sense.
We got back together months later as none of that was real, I wanted the games to stop & I wanted my daughter to have a united family. The narrative became that she only said uncomfortable with me because of her traumatic day & I was not supportive. I also repressed the memory.
Shortly after we got back together her ex was released into the care of her parents on bail after committing a violent assault & his ex disclosed to me that he had raped her too. My ex had previously had him blocked from contacting her 10yrs & had claimed she wanted him nowhere near our child as he was a psychopath & she feared him. But after his release to her parents & my protest to them which was rejected harshly, to avoid that same harshness she denied not just the sexual assault but everything else as well including his ex's claims.
We broke up shortly after & I sought the restriction as she began to use my concerns for our daughter against me & claimed my efforts to protect our daughter was coercive. I am struggling to believe that she has been following the restrictions. She has conditioned me to not bring it up & I have to put faith in the restriction but I just can't. Please help.
