can someone with BPD change?

[Brendaa]

i I'm reading about people running away from BPD relationships because it's toxic..  has anybody and BPD relationships which has been fixed with treatment? 

It's pretty sad that someone with BPD can't have a relationship... Without ruining another person's life... Does it always have to be like that? 

I'm in one ATM... And was leaving but thought why dosen't he get treatments instead....

[TrueSeeker]

Hello Brendaa

I believe that people can change when they really want to and with professional help. They're the ones
that need to put the work in to get better and really need to want to change. They need to see the benefits and realise what harm their behaviour can cause. Apologising for their actions is a great start.

In a relationship like that, you do need to be mentally strong and have good tools so it doesn't affect your life too badly. It does help to understand what is going on and how to deal with it. It needs a lot of patience and forgiveness while still giving love and care so they can get better. But without them cooperating, it can be disheartening and disappointing.

I think it's really great that you're trying to help someone and I hope that you are taking good care of yourself too

[Brendaa]

Thank you true seeker for your reply 🙂 I really appreciate it ... I actually received a message today from my bdp partner apologizing and writing all the good things we had together and also stating that he will do what it takes to have the relationship again .... I have given him one month to see a psychologist....  hopefully after then I will give him a chance.. I just don't trust him anymore because so many promises have broken ( I won't say that/do that's again etc).

I feel that with his own efforts there may be a chance for change . That's all I can hope for..... It's sad that they don't see they need help, until someone tells them... And that's usually after some hearts are broken...