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Advice on good doctors?

Jess_Wong
Community Member

Hi everybody, my name is Jessica. I've been struggling in depression for I'm not sure how long but my ex bf notice I have such symptom a year and half ago. I've seen a psychiatrist and a psychologist before but both didnt when well and have several moments that end up in the hospital. Can anybody help me, can anybody suggest me or recommend me where to find a good understanding and caring doctor? Need help,

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Jax90
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Jessica,

How did you get onto the psychiatrist and psychologist before? And how many times did you see them?? From my experience, the only way to have a helpful, supportive client-therapist relationship is by allowing such a relationship to build. Perhaps after describing your concerns to your GP, and asking him/her to refer you onto a therapist they'd consider most helpful for you; stick with the therapist for regular appointments for a while. It takes time for many of us to feel comfortable and safe enough to communicate with another person our thoughts and feelings and I think the first appointments with a therapist are the most daunting. Even if after seeing a therapist long enough to clearly judge that it's not helping, you can always ask them to refer you on to another who they'd consider a better 'fit' for you. I saw my first psychiatrist for over a year, regularly, before asking her to refer me on to someone else because we weren't getting anywhere (neither of our fault, just never felt comfortable really opening up and was never challenged by her to do so) - and consequently have been really pleased with the psychiatrist I've since seen for the last few years. 

Consistency in therapy I think is important for both recovery and relapse prevention and therefore working to establish positive relationships with one psychiatrist and one psychologist with whom you maintain regular appointments with will set yourself up for the best treatment outcome. It may not come to you instantly or that smoothly, but worth it!

Jess_Wong
Community Member

Hi jax,

Thank for replying my msgs. I've never know that I have this illness until last year my bf talk me to see one. With his company I went to see a psychiatrist, and you are right it was so hard. I couldn't even say a word. My bf did the talking but now that I think of it it wasn't a good choice that he did the talking, anyway the sessions and medication was all wrong and leads me to trying to ending my life end of march 2012. But I guess it wasn't my time yet. My bf woke me up by slapping me which I have no feel of it. And the next thing I know I was in the hospital. 

After that I came to Sydney to study and had so many bad moment. I couldn't get myself to see any doc until self harm in may brought help lines attention, they keep advising me to see a doc. I did and he was real bad.  So I kept myself in even more. But lately I've been crying for 3 weeks and I start harming myself again. I couldn't stand it anymore and I need help. I'm very very desperate. 

Ruth_M
Community Member

Hi Jess,

We hear how desperate you sound and really encourage you to get in contact with the helpline (1300 22 46 36). They can talk with you about how you are feeling and help you connect with support. It sounds like you had a bad experience with the doctor last time, but please know that there are good doctors and mental health clinicians out there, and that with the right help, things don't have to feel this bad. You've done so well to reach out on this forum, so please do take this next step towards feeling better.

Stay in touch and let us know how you go- we'll be thinking of you.

Best wishes

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