Troubled Son *Trigger warning - self harm*

[Guest2632]

Hi.I feel lost,hurt and helpless as to what to do about my 20 year old son.He was living with us about a year ago.Everything seemed to be fine at home then he got very depressed and was saying he wants to commit suicide. Started harming himself,going in and out of the mental hospital,abusing the staff there.Going out in public with weapons and harming himself Infront of people.A year before all this he was breaking into houses.He broke into his GreatGrandmothers house and stole his Uncle's car plus heaps of others I probably others i don't know about.

I use to drink when he was young not every day but catching up with friends probably a couple of times a week.Ive apologized to him for any hurt and pain I've caused him in the past.He sent me a msg the other day saying he hated me ,if I ever try and contact him again he is going to murder me.He wishes I was dead etc.I haven't replied to him.I feel deep down afraid of him and feel he isn't mentally stable.He is obsessed with weapons and Carries them around.I just feel so upset ,hurt and worried.Thanks for reading.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Jenny,

Welcome to our friendly online community - thank you for reaching out here tonight and sharing your story here. Please know that this is a safe and non-judgemental space to share your thoughts and feelings. We're so sorry to hear about what is happening with your son. We can understand why this would leave you feeling helpless and worried. Please know that you're not alone in this and you can share what you're going through here whenever you need to.

Can we ask if you have had any mental health support for yourself? This is a very difficult situation to navigate, and you may find it helpful. If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. They can also give you some advice on how to navigate this situation with your son.

You may also find some helpful information on our pages"Self harm and self injury" and "Looking after yourself while supporting someone".

We hope that you keep checking back in with us to let us know how you are going, whenever you feel up to it.
 

[Guest2632]

Thankyou so much for your advice.I will reach out today as it's really playing on my mind.Thankyou😊