Dear Dee~
I'm glad you came here, and that you have already had a chance to look around. As you will have seen your problem is sadly a common one. There are many here who are trying to the best for a loved one, and are really at a loss, at least to start with.
Becoming pregnant is a huge thing (congratulations BTW) , and this does not just apply to you of course, but to your partner too. It can be very easy to be overwhelmed with thoughts of new responsibility. Do you think this might be at least part of the case here?
Your thread title shows you already know what is needed, for your partner to embrace professional help. How you can achieve that I don't know. If he will not listen to you is there someone else who might be able to persuade him - someone he holds dear or respects - his mum perhaps?
I kept getting worse until I had the correct medical care, and that was very much the start of my improvement.
I can well understand what you mean when you say you sound like a broken record, however you are most probably a lot more help than you realize.
I had a very close family member phone me daily for months when that person's partner unexpectedly passed away, and I dreaded those calls and felt absolutely unless as there was nothing I could realy say. Years later that person told me how I'd been such a comfort - it was the caring presence that counted.
Being afraid you will walk away can be understandable if that is what has happened to him in the past. Is there any way he can help ensure you stay? I'm thinking if he has a little control he may feel more secure. I'm not sure if I'm explaining that very well.
If he just sits there and waits for the blow to fall he feels not only apprehension but also helplessness. Can you show appreciation for something he does, even something tiny, to make him feel you will want to remain? Find something in his words you can say you enjoy perhaps?
This is a horribly stressful time for you, you have all the business of pregnancy and also needing to support someone who is not well, whilst having depression and anxiety yourself. May I ask what sort of support is there for you? Are you under treatment for the depression and anxiety, also is there anyone in your life to care and help you? Trying to cope in isolation is the hardest of things.
I'd like it if you came back and talked again, you are not alone
Croix
