Dear New Member~
I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum. It's a good place to come to get outside perspectives, and if you look around may see others who have had to handle similar situations.
I'm sorry that your relationship has broken and also that you received a diagnosis the other day. Both can be life-changing events.
Really you have done as much as you can with your ex-partner. You have been to see her in person, talked and explained the effect on you and have received nothing in return.
Before going on I would point out that rahter that being difficult she may genuinely not know what to say. I'm sure many would not.
The other things is you said yourself you wanted to know from her how long this had been happening so you could have closure. Franky I'm not sure even if you were told then it would improve matters for you.
Relying on your ex anyway is possibly not that good a strategy. If you were to decide for yourself the matter is over that can be a better conclusion. Rather than being just the injured party you become someone who takes charge when life if horrible and takes your own positive steps, something to feel pride about. It also reduces the uncertainty that lets things drag on in an unhappy state.
I'm afraid missing the person and the relationship are going to happen anyway, do you have anyone in your life to give you support? A family member or friend perhaps?
Do you think taking charge might be a good idea?
Croix
