Hi my husband was first diagnosed with depression & anxiety a few months ago,but leading up to that we had a few fights over alcohol he has always liked his drink but we never had any issues with it until about 2 years ago when he started making his own, & it affects him differently, its only been recently that iv realised that the issue is the homemade alcohol. He agreed earlier this year to buy it for a couple of weeks to see what happened, nothing it was all good. I found myself constantly monitoring & questioning how much he was drinking & I would say something which at times ended in an argument. I have no idea whether this was partly the reason for his depression, alongside him being a shift worker for 10 years & not really liking his job. Well after he was diagnosed he was put on antidepressants & started seeing a councillor & he stopped drinking a few weeks after taking the meds so I assumed it was because he no longer needed the alcohol those 2 months were fantastic but his step dad passed away early Oct, but he wasn't really close to him so I don't know if this has anything to do with him drinking again. He also has been lying to me mostly about the drinking hiding the coke and bottle of drink outside where I couldn't see how much he had etc.( which he is still doing) Last Tuesday 17th at night we had a huge fight which also continued the next night until early hours Thursday morning, everything was ok for a few days until this Tuesday when he went of his rocker about something that he normally would shrug off he was screaming and screaming and crying ( keep in mind I have never seen him cry in the 10 years we've been together maybe a few tears but nothing like he did) after last week he made arrangements to go see his mum whether he just went for visit or stayed a day or 2 but he has been avoiding that &making excuses he rung her after another argument last night &hung up on her twice,so I rung her & she said that she told him he can come to stay with her a few days & talk to him and that he should stop drinking & take his meds, he obviously didn't like what she said, maybe it hit home.I am stressed & have lost 2 kilos in a week. I have to confess I have verbally abused him but only over complete frustration not enough space to explain that, I am seeing a councillor myself. He has also stopped his counselling, I don't know what to do, we still really love each other so much, I forgot to mention he blames me for everything even his depression.
