Frustrated

[Gatherer]

My husband hasn't been well. Went back to psychiatrist last week who put him back in meds and referred him to day programs.

its a good thing.

frustratingly, my husband hasn't started his meds yet..... he's scared, he wants to feel, he wants to let it all out first..... spent weekend getting drunk listening to sad music trying to cry. Kids didn't go to school today because he was drinking half the night ( I go to work early).

Just needed to vent!

[Zeal]

Hi Gatherer,

Welcome to the forum!

I'm sorry to hear your husband is unwell, and hasn't started his meds yet. It's really unfortunate that your husband's heavy drinking made getting your kids to school impractical this morning. I'm glad that your husband is back seeing his psychiatrist though. Do you know whether the day programs will help him with his drinking behaviour?

Do you have parents or a sister-in-law who could help out once a week, or whenever they are able to? This way, the kids can be looked after while you focus on getting sorted for work. Working and caring for your husband and kids must be hectic and stressful at times.

If you want to explore some online resources, there is information for carers of those with mental illness on Beyondblue. You may have a good knowledge base already about being a carer, but it never hurts to remind yourself. Go to the menu bar option Supporting someone.

Here are some other online resources you may find useful:

http://au.reachout.com/caring-for-yourself-while-caring-for-others

http://www.mindhealthconnect.org.au/

https://healthyfamilies.beyondblue.org.au/ If you feel your husband's mental health issues are affecting your kids, perhaps visit this site

It would be great to hear back from you 🙂

Best wishes,

Zeal

[Pixie15]

Hi Gatherer,

I know frustration. I have some anxious behaviours and have been told that they are learnt and I think that frustration has been a big trigger for me over the years.

I have not seen any other of your posts but am guessing your partner may have a mood disorder?

Ultimately it is up to him to take his meds or not.

Have you got someone else you could arrange to come and take the kids to school of a morning if you cannot.

It is probably a good idea to try and keep thinks as "normal" (whatever that is for your family) as possible for your children.

cheers

Pixie.

[MarkJT]

Gatherer, welcome to the forums and well done for reaching out. That's what they are here for.

When i fist started on meds, my wife cleared her calendar so she could assist if the side effects went pear shaped which they did the first time round. Is this something that you can do to reassure him that you are there to help him through what ever happens.

Hopefully when he does eventually start, it will be like the second type i tried and things went pretty smooth but it did make me much more comfortable to start knowing that she was there again to support.

Going on from what Zeal has said above which is great advice, if you could off load the kids and then concentrate on hubby for a bit, it may make a difference.

Never easy though, one thing getting advice but it is another to follow through with it.

Cheers

Mark.