frightened and need to know if i should be

KLG
Community Member

i had posted about my partner who is bipolar smoking pot - he started a new med three weeks ago and has not been right since. i have become frightened of him, and yesterday ended the relationship. he did not take it well. he rang about 100 times, left 30 voicemail messages most of them not very nice but all blaming me and saying horrible things, sent horrible text messages, and when i blocked him he used another phone to call (but left no voicemails from this number). i spent the night at a friends house after he came back to my home banging on the door twice to be let in. i phoned my psychologist who suggested i contact his mum, which i did. she said they are at the point there is nothing they can do as they have tried everything and he wont give up the pot. said he had never been violent, just nasty. i am hoping to stay back in my own home again tonight. i am not keen to get authorities involved unless he returns to my home and wont leave as i am concerned as to the knock on effect. anyone else been in the situation?

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KLG
Community Member
just to add i have tried to talk to him a number of times of late re his behavior - in his messages he states he just wants to talk to me but i cant talk to him while he is in this state.

geoff
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hello KLG, I'm sorry but you're in a predicament that is going to make you feel very uneasy, scared in fact.
I'm sure his mother has tried everything possible, but he has denied all of their help, so she just wishes that he doesn't do anything silly, so it's out of her hands now.
It's good he hasn't been nasty, however smoking pot may change this, he's too unpredictable at the moment, and it's a worry.
I really think that you must think about calling the police because once they know about him, they will be keeping an eye on him, you could also put an AVO on him so if he comes within a certain distance he will go to jail, it's to protect you. Geoff.

KLG
Community Member

Hi Geoff,

thanks for your response. If it gets to the point where he comes to my home again and wont leave i will call the police. i am hoping he will realize he needs some help and actually gets it - altho, from conversation i had with his mum i sadly doubt it. its awful.

geoff
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Champion Alumni
hi KLG, thanks, but if he does come to your house one thing you mustn't do is wait too long, we need you to be protected. Geoff.