Unsolvable issues

[Confused81]

I'm just about done I think. Married a very long time, happy anniversaries. Children, some with autism which was unheard of years ago. Serious trouble began 20 years ago which I have sought help with (for them - suicide threats) but unresolved and abuse got serious, police involved. Motherlylove has no bounds and my dear wife arranged for worst offender to live with us. That child (over50) has taken over cleverly, I am being ignored unless work is required of  menial nature,  friends and immediate family have tried to reason with my wife but high stress arguements are the only result. There are two happy people in the house, and one despairing, and not coping, me. I have sought counselling, friends have offered me 'escape' accomodation, but I'm reluctant to make more waves. Many months and serious early morning black dogs I have resigned to trying a few more ways to get my wife to see the 'takeover tactics', and if not . . . . The Movie Hope Gap with a slight twist in the plot and character swaps is close to home. I don't know how this forum works - do I get feed back with any ideas? Thanks for listening

[Sophie_M]

Hi Confused81,

We would like to thank you for finding the courage to post about your struggles here in the forums. It is a brave step.

We hear you saying you have been feeling powerless around what has been occurring in your family.

If you’re feeling suicidal or are having thoughts about harming yourself, it's important to take immediate steps to keep safe. Lifeline offer crisis support, available 24/7 on 13 11 14, or online: https://www.lifeline.org.au/  

If you’d prefer to reach out to us, we’re on 1300 22 4636, or you can use our webchat here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/  

If there’s ever an immediate risk of harm, the number to call is 000 (triple zero).  
 
We’d also recommend having a look at the Beyond Blue safety planning app. You can read about how it works and where to download it here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/beyondnow-suicide-safety-planning  

You can even call Lifeline and complete it with one of their counsellors over the phone if you'd like.  

Thanks again for sharing. We hope you'll hear back from our community in response to your post sometime today and that there's some comfort in that for you.  

Warm regards,

Sophie_M