Hi Anna84,
Never apologise. And it’s not Complaining at all. I was there. Still am to an extent.
Everything that you have mentioned, I have been through and some. Doing it with depression makes it seem impossible.
I think that someone else has put the “complaining” thought into your head. Has someone told you that are complaining?
One of my pet hates are video games. These caused more conflict in our house than I care to remember.
Speaking to his parents never helped me either, except that his father did all the household chores, like mowing around our house. My husband would get a mowing service in rather than do this himself.
I often felt like I had a 4th child, except that this one wasn’t as well behaved as my younger ones.
I worked on a University campus for over 7 years and as students were allowed access 7 days and often late in the evening, the site had to be staffed all the times. It was my work colleagues that let me down often.
I loved my work however I didn’t have any help at home either. So like you my days off were spent on housework.
My husband was very rarely home on weekends. Always meeting friends for coffee any day of the week, just so he wasn’t home. He often left our children home alone while I was working. He would buy them toys and games to keep them occupied. This was really distressing. But he didn’t see the harm in it.
Every family goes through these stresses but not everyone feels like that they just can’t go on. Something has to give.
When I suggested that I would be happier downsizing and working less, my husband absolutely refused to consider it.
I am still working and plodding along as my children move into their later 20’s… life shouldn’t be this hard 🙏🏼
