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Hello all
It was been more than 2 years since I attempted to take my own life and I thought I'd drop by to let you know that I have fully recovered and am enjoying life again.
In May 2022, following my attempt, I was diagnosed with caregiver burnout. My adult son, who has autism, ADHD, intellectual disability and Bipolar II was still living at home. He is now in supported NDIS accommodation, and I am really enjoying having the freedom to do what I want, when I want. I had also been looking after my elderly parents. Mum had been thrown into psychotic depression from the Covid Lockdowns here in Melbourne and was a hospital admission. Dad had undiagnosed mild Alzheimer's and i hate to think how hard it was for Mum looking after him on her own.
Long story short being a sandwich carer was just too much. Mum went into care in late 2021 and Dad followed soon after. I was falling into a carer role with Mum and ultimately, it's what did me in.
My brother has taken on the carer role, and I am now able to just be her daughter.
Dad, sadly, passed away a few weeks ago but he was 89 and it was peaceful, so I'm ok. I did all my grieving during 2021 while supporting him at home while Mum was in hospital.
Bottom line, I accepted help and counselling following by a few months of therapy with a senior psychologist helped me enormously. I made a full recovery and got on with my life. Such help is vital if we are to recover from such a profound experience. Today I find it hard to imagine that I ever felt that bad. But I did.
I ended up writing a book entitled, "Behind the shield of a strong facade: A suicidal crisis".
Thanks for reading.
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Dear Junior1962,
It's great to hear from you again and wonderful that you have written a book! I'm sure that is going to help some others out there who have similar experiences to you, especially those who have pushed themselves to extremes as carers before crashing themselves. So many people will be able to relate and it may really help someone in crisis. I would like to read your book as I went through a similar process caring for both my parents which became extremely full on and eventually pushed me beyond what my system could deal with.
I'm glad your son now has the NDIS accommodation and support. I am also so glad that you are enjoying a new found freedom. I feel like I am just beginning to do that as I was a lifelong carer really for my mother with her mental health and even after she died it was like I was still living out that role, if that makes any sense. Only now do I feel the beginning of living my life for myself which is a totally new concept.
It is amazing to look back, as you say, and see where you were and where you are now. It is very encouraging to others to know it is possible to heal. I also hit an extremely rough patch due to late perimenopausal hormonal changes and almost didn't come out of that with extreme levels of unrelenting distress. But I'm now on hormone medication which has been transformative. I too look back and feel like I have been in two parallel universes and I feel so much better now.
Thank you for sharing your encouraging experiences.
Best wishes,
Eagle Ray
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It is truly wonderful to hear and appreciated that you have posted the good news for us all to read here.
Thankyou and may the bad times be always just a memory