Newbie,👋

[Whysosad]

Need help not sure how this works

[Ggrand]

Hello Whysosad,

A very warm and caring welcome to our forums..

You have done a good job in reaching out on these forums for help..and that does take a lot of courage to make your first post..so very well done Whysosad...

These forums are a safe place with so many very caring people who have reached out here for help or joined up to help others..

Can I ask you what brought you to these forums..you can share as little or as much as you feel comfortable sharing..so we can help support you as much as we can..

My kindest thoughts dear Whysosad..

Grandy...

[geoff]

Hello Whysosad, welcome to the forums and I join Grandy in her comments.

It's not easy talking to people you don't know, sometimes others find this much better, but you can start wherever you like, no one is going to criticise you because all of us have had to struggle with our own problems and may have feared exactly the same, but it didn't happen, all we received were replies from people who have been through similar circumstances.

Hope you let us know.

Geoff.

[Whysosad]

Thankyou for your reply. I feel that I don't want to live anymore. In a relationship with a very angry man who puts me down and bullies me. I want to move away from him with my 15 to son but I have not had a job since I was 16. Been a stay at home mum (6 kids) Every where is so $. I am anxious, depressed and get confused. Don't know what to do

[Sophie_M]

Hey Whysosad,
Welcome to our friendly online community, we are so glad you decided to join us here. We know it can be hard to write the first post, so thank you for having the courage.
We're sure that a lot of our community members will relate to these feelings and hopefully some of them will pop by to offer you words of wisdom and kindness.
We would strongly urge that you contact. They offer 24/7 confidential information, counselling and support for people impacted by sexual assault, domestic or family violence and abuse. The lovely supportive counsellors have a lot of experience offering advice and support to anyone who has been through trauma like this. You can contact them on 1800 737 732 or visit  https://www.1800respect.org.au/
If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport 

[geoff]

Hello Whysosad, thanks for getting back to us and understand your problem, so if you can, could you please tell us whether you are living in a rented place or either of you are in a mortgage situation.

I only ask this because it makes the information we suggest, easier for us to know and how we can reply back to you.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Whysosad]

Hi Geoff, we are renting, in the process of being evicted. Thankyou for your reply.

[geoff]

Hello Whysosad, thanks for getting back.

If you want to move away from him with your 15 son, and please excuse me if I'm wrong in any of these suggestions, you can correct me, then are you being evicted by the number of children or perhaps his behaviour, but you and your son will be able to find a place to rent.

Are the other children his, from a previous relationship, I just need to know the actual circumstances you're in so that I won't guide you in the wrong direction.

Hear back from.

Geoff.

[Whysosad]

Hi Geoff, I just want to sleep and not wake up. When I do wake, anxiety hits. Feel life is meaningless, depressed and lonely. Nothing to look forward to. Bored. Any ideas on a way out of this dark pit?

[Sophie_M]

Hi Whysosad,

Welcome back to the Beyond Blue forums,

We're so sorry to hear how anxious and depressed you're feeling this morning. We're concerned to hear you wish you wouldn't have woken up. We're sending a private message to you to check in with your well-being. 

It's really great that you've come to the forum to seek ideas and advice to help you through this difficult time. You might like to look at our website for information on how to manage symptoms of anxiety and depression. The resources linked below might be helpful to you:

• Staying well
• A guide to what works for anxiety
• Talking to someone about your suicidal feelings

It sounds like you're in a really exhausting situation. If you don't have much support where you are at the moment, we'd suggest joining some local support groups. You can find information on support groups available on the Black Dog Institute site here - https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/resources-support/support-groups/

Please remember to reach out when you're feeling overwhelmed and needing to talk it through. You're never alone. In these moments you can get in touch with our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).

We hope that you keep checking in to let us know how you're going, whenever you feel up to it.