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I’m running out of fight

Ilosteverything
Community Member

I’ll keep my backstory as brief as possible.
2015 my son was born still. The following two years my mental health deteriorated. In 2017 lost friends to cancer and suicide, in 2018I lost my job, I lost my wife, she took my daughter. I lost my home and I nearly lost my battle with depression. I ended up in hospital for 5 days. It’s 3 years later and I’ve only just found a home. I have no friends, no job and I can’t seem to get my shit together.

I’m in so much debt after my breakdown and divorce, I can’t seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I just don’t know what to do my more

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Sophie_M
Moderator
Moderator
Hi Ilosteveything, welcome to the Beyond Blue forum and thank you for sharing your story here with us. 

We're so sorry to hear of the difficult journey you have been on and how painful the last six years have been. Although, we can't relate with how much you have lost, please know we are here to support you and to try our best to help you find your way. 

If you feel that it would be beneficial to about your feelings with a counsellor, please, contact the Beyond Blue Support Service anytime on 1300 22 4636 or get in touch with us on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST here: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.

We would also recommend that you get in touch with an organisation called Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277. They provide relationship support services for individuals, families and communities and aim to support all people in Australia to achieve positive and respectful relationships. It might be worth finding out what they can offer you.

You might also like to read through some of the following articles: Please keep updating us on your thread here Ilosteverything

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Ilosteverything~

I'd like to join Sophie_M in welcoming you here, it is a friendly place where there are very many who have faced, or right now are facing, a wide variety of troubles. This makes for understanding, and sometimes helps with their experience.

I'm very glad you are still alive and have sought out help. After all that life has thrown at you to survive I guess you must have a strong inner core. I'm glad you have found a home at last. With a base things can become clearer over time.

To expect yourself to be able to deal with all that has happened is asking an awful lot of you, so if you can't seem to get thngs sorted at the moment have patience with yourself, you are not defeated, just human.

I guess the only two things I'd say are what seems to me to be the biggest priorities.

The first is to get as much helpful mental health support as you can - which would mean bulk billing, but may be possible, even with telehealth if there is nothing in your area.

As you improve your ability to cope with all the difficulties you face will get stronger. I found that, the impossible became slowly possible and less frightening.

The second thing is to get disinterested financial advice, where the adviser does not get a fee or anything else from you. I'd suggest Anglicare, who have bases in each state and territory and have a Financial Counseling Service -very experienced and know a surprising number of ways and means. Plus Anglicare do often help out a bit if one is found short of food or other hardship.

This page might help

https://www.anglicare.asn.au/find-a-provider

I too would like to know how you get on as you face life.

Croix

Matchy69
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Hi Ilosteverything and I will also welcome you to the forums.Your story sounded similar to mind on parts.My wife lost our child that was still born and lost my marriage and my ex wouldn't let me see my kids.I gave my ex our house and car while I went completely down with depression and ended up in hospital with it.Thats where I got support for my mental health and getting my kids back iny life.It took awhile but I achieved it.I was cpletely down and out and now have 50/50 custody of my kids and now am financially secure again and own my own house.The key is like Croix said is to get mental health support and you can fight this and be able to see you daughter.Keep fighting you will get their.You have our support on here.
Take care,
Mark.