I lost my purpose

[MatthewAdl]

i have no purpose anymore. they ignored me and abandoned me without even saying goodbye. why spend valentines with me if you're going to abandon me for someone else. we used to be together but they had to break up because of how busy and stressful their life became - moving to Adelaide, living alone responsibilities, uni, work, working out, etc. they told me they weren't ready for dating. it was understandable. i waited so long for them. they still had feelings for me, it was obvious. they just weren't ready. i just wanted them to be happy. i just wanted them to be satisfied in life. i wanted to be there for them everyday to support and comfort them. i wanted to help them with anything and everything. i was prepared to invest so much time, love, and effort for them. so much for not being ready for dating. they lied to me. all the things they've told me, were they all lies? they even said they missed my cuddles, and used some of my cologne i gave them as a valentines gift. they said this just prior to abandoning me. i trusted you. but i guess i shouldn't have. you wasted my life. i can never get back the time you took from me. my heart is irreversibly damaged. i have no purpose anymore. therapy is too expensive - 280/hr is bs. i feel like i have no point anymore. i didn't even wash my face this morning. i dont know how much longer ill still be alive. i dont want to die. everything i worked for was for nothing. im sorry. im sorry i wasn't good enough. you deserved better than me anyway.

[white knight]

Hi welcome,

I'm sorry you've been abandoned and it is one of those experiences that leave you hollow, empty and traumatised not to mention a feeling of being lied to. In terms of being lied to, sometimes it seems that way but promises aren't forever, people have good intentions about their feelings at the time but the storm can come quickly and alter their commitment. 

I was dumped many times in my 20's but years later I met them on the street only to find out they made the wrong choices. They'd chosen a big drinker or gambler or cheater. So I looked upon them as their fault and looked for better.

This self elevation is the way to go, raising your confidence.  You deserve your ideal match and never give up on that dream. If a gf abandons you take the news as if they are the wrong one for you. After all you don't want someone that doesn't want you right?.

Repost anytime.

TonyWK 

[Sophie_M]

Hey MatthewAdl, 

Thank you for sharing how you've been feeling on the forums. We can hear that you are going through a really difficult time following your breakup and we know it can be an emotional and overwhelming time. Please know you are not alone in these feelings, we are always here to share. Know that by sharing your story with our community, you’ve already taken an enormous step and shown such bravery and strength.  

It sounds like you could really do with talking things through, so please don’t hesitate to give the lovely Beyond Blue counsellors a call on 1300 22 4636 or speak to them on webchat here. There are also some really good pointers here for staying connected, and finding support through a trying time.  

We can hear that you feel like you don't have a purpose anymore, if you’re feeling suicidal or are having thoughts about harming yourself, it's important to take immediate steps to keep safe. Lifeline offer crisis support, available 24/7 on 13 11 14, or online: https://www.lifeline.org.au/  

Thanks again for sharing here. We hope the words of our lovely community members above brings you some comfort through this difficult time. 

Kind regards,  

Sophie M 

[smallwolf]

I'm so sorry you are going through such a painful situation. Having your heart broken and feeling betrayed by someone you cared for so deeply can be a very agonizing experiences.

Please don't lose hope or give up on yourself. You clearly have so much love to give, and that is a beautiful gift - even if this person could not see or appreciate it right now. Their choices do not diminish your immense worth.

Be kind and gentle with yourself as you grieve this relationship. It will likely take time ... one day at a time ... and maybe use this space here to write down what you are feeling. People here are listening and responding.