how do i tell my boyfreind of two and a half weeks im relapsing

Guest_10508

i domt know how to ask for help from my boyfreind, were both 15 almost 16 and hes super suportive but i dont know how to ask for help

Sophie_M

Hey Guest_66617801,

We’re sorry to hear what’s going on, it's great to hear that you’re looking to ask your boyfriend for some extra support. That sounds like a really good first step. We’re really glad you could share this here.

Hopefully, we’ll hear from a member of this amazing community soon. Maybe you could help them along by letting us know what kind of issues you're facing, what support you have at the moment, and if anyone around you is helpful or understanding with how you’re feeling?

In the meantime, we wanted to let you know that there’s a few places you can reach out to, whenever you need to talk things through and get some ideas for how you can get some better support. There are our friends over at KidsHelpline on 1800 55 1800, and you can also reach them online.

Please know that the Beyond Blue counsellors are here for you as well, and you can reach us on 1300 22 4636 or online anytime if you feel like talking it through.

Thanks again for posting here. It must have taken a lot of strength to share this, but you never know who will read this post and feel less alone in their own experience.

Kind regards,

Sophie M

therising

The warmest of welcomes to you at such a challenging time of your life and relationship.

I've found what can often work, when it comes to asking for help, involves a sense of wonder. Finding someone to wonder with me as to why I can feel myself struggling can be a softer and even more positive approach. For example, we could say to someone

'I can't help but wonder why I'm struggling so much at the moment. Do you have any ideas?'
'I wonder about who would be the best person or people for me to speak to right now. Do you have any ideas?'
'I wonder why I'm suddenly feeling everything so intensely right now. What do you think?'

and so on.

Getting someone to open their mind, so that we're not wondering alone, can lead others to come up with ideas we may not have considered. I should add that anyone who typically responds with 'I don't know' and that's pretty much it, is not the kind of person who is going to lead us to wonder about a variety of possibilities.

I think if we can be led to wonder about or consider a whole list of things, chances are we're going to feel at least one thing on that list as a possibility. Like with Sophie offering you a couple of places to contact. Doesn't hurt to wonder whether one of those places could make the difference you're looking for. Maybe you could also wonder about coming back here to the forums to chat more and see where things go from there.