Most of us are weakened by our mental illness. We are in the minority, we are not part of the majority and the majority rules.
So add to that naivity of mental illness with pseudo medical expertise that results in "just snap out of it" comments we grow frustrated. Futhermore if we decide not to counter/defend ourselves immediately inappropriate comments are unleashed we suffer the fallout from that in terms of regret, guilt and dwelling. Not to mention anxiety from future comments we plan to make...to counterattack.
If you are at home and suffer a violent home invasion would you fight back if you had opportunity? If you were a paraplegic would you react if someone told you to "get up and walk"?
Isaac Newton found that an action of force takes an equal reaction. The gravity of a tennis ball in your hand is a downward force. Your hand has an equal forve upwards to hold the ball stationary.
So in theory if we apply it to our vulnerable lives, unless we counter other peoples words or actions we are sitting ducks and in a world where the strongest survive we better take action. If you have a reputation of taking abuse, such abuse will multiply
The second step after realisation is developing strategies for self protection. A defense is highligjted in (use google)
Topic: fortress of survival- beyondblue
But we cant put up walls for every situation. We have to have a list of responses to verbally respond to the onslaught of the "crusher", the person that prays on the weak.
Be prepared to limit your hurt and defend your sensitive and emotional fragility by countrring with direct phrases.
Or you'll be walked all over.
All questions answered.
Tony WK
