Vent and then let it go...

[Guest_1055]

Not sure about anyone else but sometimes I just need to vent, including venting any frustrations, fears, hopes, worries, longings and anything else. Most of the time I don't want any advice or any responses. Just need a way to get it all out from within me.

So thought this thread could be for those sort of things. No one replys to you with words or anything. It's a place to let it all go. Just dump whatever it is you want to say and leave it here.

So yeah no replys please.

[mmMekitty]

There are so many people who have contributed to the products & services I need to imagine how I could in any practical way, live totally alone & independently. I'm not even a half-decent gardener.

I have to admit, when I think about the people who are in some way, in my life, I need them. From the unknown people who clean the hospital where I go, & pack fruit & veg to deliver to shops, to people who stock shelves, who deliver mail, who keep power reaching my flat, who collect rubbish from the kerb, ...to the people I have direct contact with, such as my GP, PDr, doctors, nurses & other health workers, to my helpers who are paid via NDIS - & all the people keeping that system (flaws & all), at least doing this for me... & the more I think, the more people there are, a huge number of whom I will never know or meet, who don't know they are personally supporting my life.

Now I start thinking, the list gets longer, & longer... so I need to say a quiet 'Thank You' & let the thoughts go...

mmMekitty

[mmMekitty]

Oh, & I didn't mention my Sis, who has been so kind & forgiving, so helpful & patient with me.❤️

Does everything I feel for her equal love? It's so difficult for me to admit & say, but I think it might.

mmMekitty

[Mum Chris]

The hermit life is really not for me.

I have a village of carers and supporters. I struggle with small tasks

Yes wrote it and let it go it’s gone.

[Gambit87]

It seems every 6 months or so my place of employment is looking to 'integrate and simplify the business to remove the complexities to streamline processes' etc

make me fearful for my job!!!

[CMF]

My partner annoyed me. He tells me to speak up and call people out, work colleagues, my ex etc. I speak up to him often about how his sis living with him is affecting me but he won't say anything to her so as not to upset her yet he's ok with me being upset? A discussion tonight 'aggitated' him told him good, now he knows how I feel when I'm agitated.

He's hypocritical and knows it. Mr nice guy, agrees with me but always the other person.

So annoyed

[Guest_1643]

I've made every single mistake and things turned out the worst possible way,

Feels like I deserve and should be suffering.

[Guest_1055]

I am ok...

But a part of me wishes my life was over. Maybe I just dont have what it takes to manage my life. I don't know how to do it. Verbal communication is painful... because I don't feel understood even if I do voice things. Not feeling understood and known hurts. And I don't know why it hurts.

I only want undivided attention...even if it's only for a minute or so. Is that too much out of a whole day?

It just sends messages to me... You are unimportant, you are not worthy of my time. Your needs and even wants don't matter to me... Tears are beneath the service. Behind my eyes.

I am too tired to struggle anymore. To manage my life.. I am not good at it. Don't have the skills. Don't know how to handle emotions. Don't know which way to go.

[white knight]

Hi Shelll,

This post is about you.

My lovely wife is amazing. She battles through her depression then watches TV and if any animal is hurt, she'll burst into tears. Such is her beauty.

I'm saddened when other people battle with their confidence and trying to figure out how others tick. I once wrote an article on the latter called "the benefit of the doubt" BOTD (in search) where, you put faith in loved ones to avoid disappointment due to our own expectations.

So why is it hard for people to give you some undivided attention? Using the "BOTD" theory you can list in your mind the possibles

They are-

• content
• can't read your needs
• busy
• feel uncomfortable
• unable

So the next crucial step is seeking clarification. You can do this a number of ways but I suggest you take the person to a calm place with the least distractions. Then tell the person "I need 15 minutes of your undivided attention" then "can you give me that"?

Hope that helps.

TonyWK

[Guest_1643]

Hi shelll, hearing u and hope do feel soon that whole love and attention.

Wander how we can give it to ourselves....

[Guest_1055]

Thankyou Tony and Sleepy. Appreciate you