Struggling to cope, please help.

[Guest_4643]

Hi, my name's Tayla and I'm 20. Relatively new to these forums, but I've commented on threads and made some of my own so far so if people could check this out and the others and reply it would mean a lot please, although I'm not forcing anyone.

I have a great Psychiatrist that I'm very thankful for and happy and comfortable with. However it can be a while in between sessions because he has other patients and other work to do, and other non Psychiatry work commitments with other work stuff he does.

I see my GP, but I don't find her as helpful as my Psychiatrist. Yes she's nice and sometimes she helps, but I don't know, I just don't feel like she helps me as much as my Psychiatrist does. I'm not trying to be rude or say anything mean about her, that's just how I'm starting to feel lately.

I live in a small town in Regional Victoria, about 4000 or so people. Lived up here for about 2 years, with my parents. I don't have any siblings, no friends online and in person and no family members apart from my Mum and Dad. They struggle some days too with depression etc also.

I can't do anything here. I've looked for jobs even asked in person and I'm always told no although I'm willing to learn. I've tried to join groups here and I'm always told I'm not allowed because it's for older people. I don't know why. I'd be grateful to join and try to be positive and laugh and meet people, and do whatever they do.

I also can't study because that's super expensive. All of the free courses I've looked up you need qualifications and certain things, for example you had to do a course prior to doing a free one, have to be a certain age and have certain skills, etc. So I don't. I don't have any Employment Agencies nearby, I do look things up online.

I'm not really a sporty person and sometimes I regret that. Even the local sports won't accept me though. Believe me I've tried everything I can.

I even called the local triage and the guy on the phone was so rude, refused to speak to me and help me and I was polite and just asked if I could come in for support because my Psychiatrist and I discussed that and he said I could give it a go. That made me feel so hurt and unwanted because I've never spoken to a triage before.

I went to the local Headspace Centre and was made fun of for my mental illnesses by the managers and group members. I complained and she lost her job. eHeadspace has always been rude and unhelpful to me too.

Please, please help. Anybody. I'm struggling so much.

Tayla.

[Guest_4643]

Hey Pepper, thank you for replying again, I appreciate it.

And thank you for your kind words and thinking of me in that nice way, it means a lot and I'm glad you think that. It's nice that someone thinks that positive stuff about me since I can't myself.

Yeah Johanna Basford books are great, I have her Secret Garden book too which I've coloured in a bit.

I agree with you about those suggestions, I'll do that too, thanks.

I'm sorry that you're having a rough time and you have a broken heart. But yes that's true, taking it day by day is necessary sometimes and can help, that's what I'm trying to do. I have my good and bad moments like everyone else.

I hope your heart heals and that you feel better. I'm always here if you need me. Lots of love and hugs, kindness and care back to you.

Tayla xx

[Paw Prints]

Hi Tayla,

I've been thinking about you & pondering about how you haven't had much success with your trying to volunteer/work or meeting people your own age.... you seem to have tried so many things.... I wonder if you would consider asking your Psych for a reference to your local Mental Health unit (Usually a GP would do a ref, but yours isn't worth trying), you would still be able to keep seeing your Psych...but if you get a local mental health nurse/social worker they can help you make social connections in your area & they can also help with finding a place to volunteer even if only for a few hours each week. Even just having someone to talk to between Psych appointments. I found my mhn a big help in all sorts of ways. Perhaps if you talk it over with your Psych he can explain how it all would work for you & that might make you more comfortable with the idea.

I had a lovely surprise earlier.... I was looking out my lounge window at the neighbours herd of cattle and I spotted a calf... it can't be much more than a few days old... it was so cute.

Lots of thunder & lightening around last evening... but we got no rain with it unfortunately... how is it where you are... is your town in one of the drought areas?

I hope you feel a bit brighter today.

Huggily hugs

Paws

[Guest_4643]

Hi Paws, thanks for thinking of me and replying.

My Psychiatrist referred me to the local triage because we were discussing it although I didn't think he'd do a referral.

Anyway I exchanged phone calls with them because like you said, I thought it was a place like that to offer support. Nope, everyone on the phone was extremely rude like my GP, and they just said they admit people, I'll explain this to my Psychiatrist, just a misunderstanding and miscommunication. Thanks for the suggestion anyway.

Yeah it's pretty dry and a drought affected area where I am, been quite hot lately, we had some storms a few days ago.

Huggily hugs back, take care and thanks for responding again.

Tayla

[Sophie_M]

We are letting you all know we're closing this and all Tayla's other threads except for Looking for some self care and coping strategy tips please.

Keeping to one thread makes it easier for members to keep up with Tayla's story, and saves having to repeat information.