i would like to unburden.

[Akitagirl]

hi All,

I guess its just a small (ish ) thing, but I would like to share what happened to me yesterday. I don't have anyone to discuss it with, but I don't want to add it to my emotional baggage.

I recently started a casual job. i had done two shifts at the local country hotel. a new manager started yesterday, and I met him when I stopped by for a drink to fill in 40 minutes between appointments.  honestly he struck me as being a bit of a jerk right off the bat. anyway I didn't think too much of it. later in the day I got a phone call from him saying that I would no longer be required. I asked him if he could tell me why, he replied "because I heard that you said I wasn't going to last". 

I was pretty shocked. I didn't say that at all, what I did say (to a workmate) was that I'm not sure that I trust him 100%.

I know I shouldn't have said it out loud at all, but I didn't imagine she would go ahead and tell him. 

anyway, as a result I am feeling angry, both at myself and at him. I have lost my job. partly I blame her for being such a snitch, partly I think he's being petty, especially because I had not said what I was accused of, but mostly angry with myself. why cant I  learn to keep my big mouth shut and my opinions to myself.

I feel stupid.

[Red-Gum]

Hi and good on you for following your gut. 
Never second guess your initial feelings, it keeps you safe. 
You are now out of a job but also this gives you information: your gut was right about the guy, and the woman was not trustworthy. 
That knowledge is vital and will help you get a better job. 
Remember when you are going for interviews you are interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you. I turned down a job recently because of my gut feeling about the guy who’d I thought would work me to the bone. 
Stay true to yourself as you did nothing wrong. 

[therising]

Hi Akitagirl

First, I just want to say how much I feel for you regarding you having to look for another job. Far from an easy thing to do at times. Second, I 100% agree with Red-Gum, it was a good gut call. Your instincts were spot on when it comes to not trusting this guy. He could had done anything with the information he had, such as ignoring it or laughing it off or choosing to prove you wrong, yet he chose to be a jerk and play the ego card instead. Sounds like you may have ended up being managed by an egotist. Weighing it up as to which would be easier, looking for another job or being managed by an egotist, you may be facing what's actually easier (regarding the job search). 

Perhaps there's a lesson in this for everyone involved and maybe you're the only one who's learned. Learning who you can trust and who you can't, when it comes to other employees, can definitely be a tough lesson. Whether that employee who reported to him has learned that her words have great consequences for others, who knows. Whether the manager who couldn't manage his ego has learned any lesson in this, I doubt it. 

As well as feeling for you, I also feel for the patrons of that hotel. While they've lost an employee who could have been a much welcomed breath of fresh air, they're now left with a possible egotist and a gossiper. Some patrons will tolerate such natures and some won't. Whether that manager has a job there by the end of the year is up to you to imagine.

All the best with the job search 🙂