Help...I want Chocolate

Guest_1055 · ‎07-03-2016

Hello everyone.....

Right at this moment the desire and craving to drive to Woolworths and buy chocolate is huge. But I don't want to give in. The reason I am writing this post is because I want victory in this area in my life. And I am hoping the strong cravings will cease, as I write here. And I want to know if anyone else struggles with this particular issue. Any advice would also be very welcomed.

I think a lot of people say chocolate is OK. But I tend to differ. For many years I have turned to it for comfort, a high or some other good feeling. But for me it is short lived. Even as I am writing this, I am visualising chocolate Easter bunnies in my head. As they are in the supermarkets now. Some people may think this is a funny situation. But for more it is not. It is a real hindrance in my life, and I want to be cut loose from the chains.

I normally eat a whole block in one go, that is a huge amount. About 200grams of the stuff.

I am beginning to believe it is like someone turning to alcohol, drugs or whatever. Using this stuff to escape, hide or feel better, or something for a short time. I use chocolate as a coping mechanism., (so I think at the time of eating it)

Consuming it every day also affects my emotional and mental health in a non beneficial way. I also become more gloomy, foggy headed, irritable, angry, my heart beats faster, lethargic, headachy and fat. It is not a good use of our money either.

Anyway does anyone else have similar issues? I haven't had it for three days now. And my body is craving it big time.

OK, thank you

Shelley xx

Guest_1055 · ‎08-03-2016

Hey my friend Sherie....

I love been greeted by you and smiling Holly!

Yes I knew you would understand me. I think I recall reading another time that you crave chocolate and dairy things. But perhaps not as often as me??

Like I told Mary in the above post. I gave in Sherie, I went out later and bought a cute colourful Easter bunny.

Yes those headaches are not good. As I am writing this, the thought popped into my mind that I could write a message for myself. The message could say "warning chocolate gives you headaches". I could then put it in my purse.

Please be reassured Sherie you are a help to me. Even your familiarity brings me a sense of "not being alone in this journey of life" feeling. And also I get a sense that in most things, you seem to understand me. So that is all good......

Many hugs

Shell xx

Guest_1055 · ‎08-03-2016

Hey Paul

I have actually done that before, avoid the chocolate aisle in the supermarket. I have also tried only eating dark chocolate, but I didn't like the taste of it.

A Woof to you too

Shelleybelly xx

Guest_1055 · ‎08-03-2016

Oh you too Carol....you eat a lot of chocolate as well. And you also go to it when you are sad. I am exactly the same. I like it so much, but I wish that no one had invented it.

Yes I love Easter egg chocolate too. In fact that is what a regretfully bought last night. I wonder if you eating it has an impact on those headaches you get???

I am aware people say dark chocolate is better. It has antioxidants or something in it. But I don't like the taste of the dark one at all.

Thankyou for your post Carol, I feel that you understand me.

I hope you ...yourself feels better soon.

Take care now

Shell xx

blondguy · ‎08-03-2016

Hey Shell 🙂

You are right...Dark Chocolate is an acquired taste...better with almonds to take away the bitterness

I think you deserved that Easter Bunny Shell (Hugs)

WOOF!!

Guest_1055 · ‎08-03-2016

Hello Robbie

Yeah I did try and distract myself, I thought of coming on here to BB and just start this thread up. I was able to wait it out a little while. But I caved in later. Maybe I will write up a list of other distractions and have it ready for next time. Having a bubble bath sounds delightful. I am glad you are able to do that. I wish we had a bathtub here at our place. But never mind...

Thanks Rob.

Shell xx

Guest_1055 · ‎08-03-2016

Oh really Paul........ you think I deserve an Easter bunny?

Maybe I should look at it in that way this time. Maybe then I won't feel like I keep failing. Because that is how I feel at the moment in regards to this.

Thanks Paul

Shelleybelly xx

blondguy · ‎08-03-2016

Hey Shell

I meant every syllable...you do deserve it...you are a gem (hugs)

Paul

Gruffudd · ‎09-03-2016

Oh Shell,

I worry that you might be hard on yourself. Part of controlling urges around food for me is to sometimes give in, not every time just sometimes. I think if you do have the chocolate it is worth making sure there is quality and not the rubbish stuff, I say that because you are a quality person and I don't want to see you have anything but the best.

Are you an emotional eater like me? When I reflect on my food habits what I eat is dependant on my mood and how much is often connected with a difficult emotion or thought that I just don't want to deal with. When I wrote that it seemed a ridiculous thing to do to eat to avoid a feeling or thought, but I do. I have also noticed that thinking through the stuff I am avoiding improves my diet somewhat.

Have you heard of the marshmallow test? I was involved in one as a child and failed, I think I would today too 🙂

Rob.

Lost_Girl · ‎09-03-2016

Hi Gruffud,

I am not sure what you mean by the marshmallow test but many years ago I played a game called chubby bunny where you have to put a marshmallow in your mouth and say chubby bunny then repeat but you can't chew or swallow them. It's competetive and each person takes turns until the person with the most wins. I won....but have not eaten marshmallow since! 🙂

I wish chocolate were as easy.

Shell,

I wish it did contribute then I would have more incentive to stop but I have always been able to consume large amount with no trouble. Unfortunately my metabolism doesn't cope now as it did when I was younger.

I laughed when they made resealable packets for choc blocks.... I have friends who can eat a couple of squares but I am unable..better to avoid it completely.

I think I will look into high protein, paleo style food to keep me feeling fuller. I am finding crocheting is stopping me snacking so much as my hands are busy.

I like dark chocolate with rum and raisin, almond is nice too. Old Gold is less bitter than a lot of them. I do eat less with dark choc because it is much richer.

Paul, I tell myself I deserve it because I feel so awful and why not feel better. However it's a false economy because after a while I just feel like I have let myself down again and I don't want to be gaining more unhealthy weight especially when I am unable to exercise enough to balance it.

Maybe I need a different treat to replace it - something that will make me feel good without the calories. What do you think Shell? Can you think of anything? (My brain just said wine but that was very unhelpful brain as we can't drink on meds)

Hugs, Carol xx

Guest_1055 · ‎09-03-2016

Morning Robbie

Reading your last post, bought happy tears to my eyes. For I do feel understood by you. I have been beating myself up about failing again. Although I am trying hard to think upon what Paul ( blondguy) said about deserving this treat this time. And the bit where you mentioned about being a quality person and deserving the best. Well I have said something extremely similar to my son quite a few times. And it is like my very own words are being spoken back at me by you.

I am sometimes lead to eat by my emotions .The time that I ate the Easter bunny I was feeling rejected or unloved by other members of my family. So a sadness came over me. So maybe that is like what you say, I am trying to avoid this particular feeling...... the sadness.

Are you joking about the marshmallow test? Was there such a test? I know you have a bit of humour in you. Anyway I haven't heard of it......

Take care now Rob and thankyou

Shell xx