Happy Mother's Day 2020

[Doolhof]

I wasn't sure where to post this, as "Mother's Day" could come under many different headings depending on what the day means for the individual.

Corona Virus has added another twist to Mother's Day.

This is an opportunity for people to express their feelings about Mother's Day.

It may be a chance to send a greeting to a Mum who is no longer in your life, a message tot he Universe perhaps.

You might have a fond memory of your Mum you would like to share, or of any female you have a close connection to like a Mother figure.

For some it may be a time of grief and loss, either in relation to your Mum or to children who are no longer with you.

For me, I will be phoning my Mum, going to work and will spend some time thinking of my babies in Heaven.

I will remember fond moments with my Mum and memories of a very special lady "J" who was a gift of love in my life.

I will recall happy moments with other people's children over the years and how precious those times were.

I will be working, so I will try and make Mother's Day special for those I will be working for and with.

For those who celebrate Mother's Day, I wish you a special day. May you be able to embrace and accept this year will be different but it can also be okay.

Kind regards from Dools

[ecomama]

Thankyou for starting this thread Dools, I am new here but please let me say that I admire the way you expressed your feelings, the way you extended kindness and love to others here, your relentless spirit and how you will make others feel very special today. You are a gift.

Bless your children and I am very sorry for your losses.

Thankyou, because today is a difficult day for me too. I wish I was working today but tomorrow will come and I thank God for that.

I got up early and had a cry. I have already driven 1 child to work without any mention of mothers day.

I am estranged from my mother and from before Christmas until after mothers day each year can be difficult months since her birthday is in that time too. It took me years to see that pattern happening.

My children may or may not do something for me, usually nothing much happens, but I am ok with that, kind of. IDK.

I am not on social media any more at all, which I believe helps me mostly but today and other special days I long for connection and interaction. I just feel very sad.

Mothers Day when I was a child was an exciting day. My mother was always brutal but beyond that I usually saw my grandmother and she was ALWAYS so happy to see me. My aunties, great aunties and others usually met us altogether for an almost Christmas Day like feast. Most of them have passed now or are estranged.

I think I will text those mothers, any mothers I have numbers for, I may do it for every mother in my contacts list. Nope lol. Just a few. It would annoy me too much.

I might garden a bit or just water my garden. It's lovely how plants respond to being cared for.

xxxxEM

[Summer Rose]

Hi Dools

I'm so sorry to hear about your lost babies. I imagine that kind of loss never really goes away and I know this day must be rough for you. I sit with you in friendship and always wish you well.

Kind thoughts to you

[Doolhof]

Hi EM,

Thank you for your kind words. My day at work was very busy so I didn't have a great deal of time to feel grief and sadness until I came home again.

At work I saw tears in staff members eyes as they clocked in or out and I wondered what was going on in their lives. I tried to offer them a smile. I don't know their stories. I haven't been at work long and the staff are only at the desk fleetingly.

Some visitors wished me a Happy Mother's Day, I accepted their greetings and I was having a happy day in a way helping others to celebrate their Mothers.

I'm wondering if Mother's Day is made harder to live through due to media images of loving happy families, beautiful gifts, smiles and laughter. The T.V. commercials make everything look so perfect and wonderful. Not everyone has that.

I don't know how your day went, I hope it was okay and you believe in yourself and who you are. Not always an easy thing to do when you are feeling sad and forgotten.

My thoughts are with you, cheers from Dools

[Doolhof]

Hi Summer Rose,

Thanks for your kind message and thoughts. The sense of loss and grief does not go away and sometimes it can be triggered by the slightest comment or sight.

I do have fond memories of sharing time with other people's children including my nieces and nephews, so those memories I cherish.

I hope your Sunday was okay for you.

Cheers from Dools

[Doolhof]

Hi Geoff,

Thanks for your caring thoughts. I actually had a couple of friends who phoned me on Saturday night and I enjoyed a talk with them.

A dear friend sent me a lovely message on my phone Sunday. My boss was supportive at work as well as I explained my situation and she told me to take as many breaks as I needed.

I'm trying to focus on the good things in life Geoff! I really appreciate your kindness and thoughtfulness.

Cheers to you from Dools

[Summer Rose]

Hi Dools

My day was overshadowed by sadness and I am really grateful to my husband and adult children who did their best to support me.

They kept me busy and laughing and we paid tribute to mum/grandma by playing her favourite board game and sharing memories.

To be honest, I'm glad the occasion has passed and hoping it will be easier next year.

Kind thoughts to you

[Doolhof]

Hi Summer Rose,

Sounds like you have a wonderful supportive family. It is so special to be able to do things your Mum would have enjoyed.

The grieving process can be rough when loved ones die. Special days like Anniversaries, Christmas, Birthdays and Mother's Day can bring so many emotions to the surface.

I hope you are able to find ways to get through your day today. After a time of grieving, I often feel tired, drained and deflated. Hope you find some peace today.

Cheers from Dools