anti-social media

[Guest_829]

recently i've been off and on social media in between work,home life,down time and when im studying.wondering how many people have given up on those sires and have de-faced themselves and are now searching for other ways to talk about their problems and worrys and every day issues

[james1]

Hello mykl,

That's a great question.

I've almost entirely given up on social media. I don't use facebook unless I'm tagged, at which point I just look at what i've been tagged in and just ignore everything else.

I only use messenger as a replacement for texting.

I think it's very much a personal thing so what works for me may not work for you.

But I never used social media as a way to talk about my problems and worries and day to day issues. I suppose nobody ever really has anything useful to say except that they feel sorry for me, and that's not what I want.

I want to be able to enjoy my time with my friends so I try to limit my use of friends as a place to vent, except when I absolutely need to.

Instead, I use my psych as a place to really just let everything go. I tell her basically anything and everything. It's an expensive use of time, but it helps me live my life outside of the sessions while having a place to go, "BLAH."

So I think it's probably a good thing to ask yourself, "What do I use social media for and does it achieve my goals?" Do you have anyone else to talk about your problems and every day issues? Does social media actually help you with those?

James

[blondguy]

Hi Mykl

You have made a good point re social media.

James1 has excellent advice above about social media and standing back and having a look at what value are we actually getting off this medium.

Ive had depression for a while now and have found FB somewhat stressful (just for myself) especially when I am feeling anxious or when I am over sensitised...or stressed...It can be hard work.

Maybe see how you feel after a break...If you are more relaxed after your break you have your answer. I see my GP a lot for a gasbag and have a couple of close friends as my support network if I need to have a vent

Great post Mykl 🙂

Paul

[velvetfaerie]

OHhh interesting topic. Personally: I have never had a social media account except for this.

I find the whole idea of it fake, false, attention seeking and 2 dimensional., ie, twitter, facebook, myspace, snapchat, instagram.... etc. I know it is good for people who have friends who live a long way away. I will give it that credit.

And i still find it stressful ! LOL ! Why? Because it is WAY too easy for partners to use these platforms to cheat.

This is only my personal opinion. I have seen what these things are about through my friends showing me things on their accounts.

V.