My husband and i have been married for a little over a year. I identify as a gay male but have been labelled by others as a pansexual because I have been able to have relationships and intercourse with women.
Recently my husband has come out as non-binary. Not going into unnecessary detail it feels as if my husband has made this grand statement publicly and i am to just deal with it and field questions from our families and friends as they are too scared to ask my husband in fear of insulting or i am bigoted or just see things in black and white (his words)
I try my best to understand however when i try to discuss with my husband how they have come to this conclusion i am met with mild hostility, made to feel i am ignorant and my feelings are unfounded and told i see everything in black and white.
I am several years older than my husband and understand there are things about the modern world i need to learn, which i am try. All research on this matter though i find geared to the non-binary individual and how i can be more understanding and accepting/supportive.
I fought hard with other gay and lesbian people through the last decade to have the right to marry another man (or woman) in this country and for that i am very proud.
Now i feel i am no longer married to a man as i am not able to use that term, or other masculine terms beyond husband (which is confusing in itself).
The only reason i can ascertain from speaking with my husband is that his single mother who raised him instilled a negative perception of men and what it is to be male.
More to this i was born intersex and underwent over 36 reconstructive surgeries to endure that i was male and be accepted by society at that time.
Please, anyone help. I dont want my marriage to crumble or create a toxic and volatile home life.
