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Sorry if this bothers you since I don't have any advice to give... I just want to say thank you for posting this. I have been feeling the exact same way and it's comforting to know that someone else is going through the same thing and may have helped me to understand myself a little better. So thank you~
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Hi Hesse,
Honestly the fact that other people feel the same way is helpful to me too. Sorry I didn't get back to you earlier about this, I forgot what email i used to log in and when i tried using my username it wouldn't work for some reason.
So about a week ago i was in the shower and while i was washing my hair and just staring at a wall i started thinking about this stuff, and about coming out as transgender. I have anxiety so my thoughts on how other people view me generally aren't great. Needless to say this time wasn't any better. But i did realise that in all of these fantasies i was having about coming out and being transgender, i was always happy in them and i was always stronger in them. Like emotionally i mean. I ended up just lying on the floor in my room for like 20 minutes thinking about this stuff and as i thought more about it i became more certain that this is what i want. My anxiety was holding me back. I talked to my mum and my sister about it, and i came to the conclusion that i am transgender. One of my worries was that my experience wasn't the 'stereotypical' transgender experience. I didn't have gender dysphoria, i didn't know from a young age that i was a different gender. I was worried that because i didn't have these experiences, i wasn't really transgender. What i realised is that it doesn't matter what other people think, and it doesn't matter if my experiences arent the stock standard experiences everyone thinks of when they hear 'trans'. I realised that the fact that i've spent a quarter of my life trying to figure this out and the only argument i had for not being transgender was "but what if?" just proves that this isn't all a phase. This is how i really feel and all that matters is how I feel about this because I'm the only one it affects, and if people i know and love can't accept me like this then do i really want to know them
So I've come out as transgender publicly. Everyone i know was super supportive. I feel really happy about this and i'm super happy that i had that moment of certainty where my anxiety wasnt holding me back. So Thank You everyone for your help and kind words while i was going through this. You all helped me see things from new perspectives and helped me realise i wasn't alone in how i felt. I can finally have some certainty about my gender and i'm taking steps to show how i feel about my identity. Thank you all for your support and i hope that anyone who reads this thread can find support here. ❤️
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Hey Soup!
I'm so happy you're starting to figure it out! Your story sounds a lot like mine - I think we had exactly the same thought processes. I hope you're having a good time, wherever you are. 🙂
Jay
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