Work issues, need advice

[Alice850]

I’ve been in this job for about three months now. I’ve just had my three month review and the feedback was good except for when it comes to me being more reserved, my manager said that I’m quiet and reserved and sometimes just come in and say hello to everyone do my job and go home.

There has been some issues over the past few months where I’ve been left out of some things at work or have felt like I’m not really made to feel part of the team.

This review meeting was only last week so since then I’ve really tried to engage a lot more and join conversations throughout the day, not that I didn’t do that before, but obviously that was some feedback that I need to be doing more of that so that’s what I’ve done.

I’ve now been told today that I no longer report to that manager and I now report to my colleague, who’s now my manager. She’s 20 and doesn’t have any experience. I’m 31 for context and have over eight years of experience in this industry. I had a meeting with her today and she has now got me reporting every afternoon and telling her every single thing that I’ve done throughout the day and what my priorities are for tomorrow.

We also have a leadership development program where I work. It’s only just been run for the first time. They’ve now selected the group of people that are going to do it next year. I’m not one of them and one person who has been selected has been there for less time than I’ve been working there and another person has literally only been there for two days.

I really don’t know what else I can do. Even before this colleague became my manager today I had a chat with her last week to ask what I could do differently or how I could engage more in the workplace. Not that I don’t already do that. I do engage in things, but I asked her what could I do differently to be shown to be taking initiative? She gave some feedback and  I’ve been doing that. I really don’t know what else to do.

I’m looking for other work but there are no jobs in this area at the moment.

I guess I just would like some advice from people who have gone through something similar or have any advice on what I should do because it’s really starting to affect my mood, I feel really depressed and it’s starting to affect my personal life outside of work.

[blues23]

Hi Alice 

im a lot like this too ( or have been in the past ) it’s hard if your a reserved person, most of the jobs will complain if your too friendly  chatty whatever”  not a team player “  and don’t do the  work ,others will complain if you have a quite personality and just do your job and go home ( I do this I try not to get involved in it not for any reason other than it is a job and just that I am there to work not make friends I work predominantly alone which thank goodness . ) I think your doing the best you can ,feedback your taking all it on and that’s all you can do , I’d do what she asks and my other duties ,if she’s unsatisfied ask how to improve and do it . Start keeping a list of your tasks and stuff if you wanna be super efficient you can email it to her each day ( paper trails are always  a good idea cc in any HR and any meetings she drags u into without notice and stuff just keep emailing her thank you for the opportunity to chat today XYZ whatever was discussed and your plans for tomorrow ect ect she will soon get sick of it I’ve had these  micro managers before they are  super annoying ) I reckon this job is just too much hard work ,it’s good your looking for a new job In the meantime just keep doing your best it’s all you can do , keep your paper trail, ultimately the job and the people in these jobs may be hard work themselves ( is there a higher up person you can ask to speak to to help you out just say like you feel under constant supervision & left out & like you have to change ur personality to do the job to the satisfaction from this new manager and it’s affecting your mental health) 

Be kind to yourself .