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Single at 31....

Lindsey30
Community Member

My boyfriend walked out 4 weeks ago, we had been going through a rough time and not really speaking and i came home from work and he had gone. Since then there has been harsh words from both sides and apparently he has moved on (in the bedroom lets say) I'm totally heart broken we were together 3 and a half years and now i feel totally worthless and a failure.

I wasn't born in Australia so have hardly any friends and my family is across the world. Everywhere i look i see happy couples, engagements on facebook and people having kids. That's all i ever wanted and now i feel that the chances of that have gone. I have even taken blood tests to check my fertility as i'm scared to death of not having any children. I just feel absolutely no joy in ANYTHING i do. I'm trying to force myself to go do things but i just cant find any happiness in it. Even walked down to the beach on Saturday and cried the whole way along it as it reminded me of my ex. When will these horrible times pass because it sucks? I HATE life and see no point anymore really.

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LeeA18
Community Member

Hi lindsey

I understand where you are coming from. I am 36 and haven’t had kids or even come close to getting married. My boyfriend just broke up with me because of his depression. I thought he was the one. He is such a wonderful man. But this disease has gotten the better of him right now. I still hold hope that we will be together again. If we have kids, that’s up to the universe now too.

No ones useless it's what you think when your down on yourself. Try and keep yourself around positive people..

white-flowers
Community Member
Hi Lindsey30,
Like others in the forum I'm in a similar boat. "New hobbies"and what not have not helped me. I've enjoyed finding self help clips on YouTube which have helped the little introvert that I am; in particular TEDx talks. Good relationship breakup and you will find a plethora of things on YouTube to help you out.
Hope this helps.