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Same sex relationship and ASD and ADHD & PTSD

Tillie2
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Hi all I have been with my wife for almost 13 years and for the most part has been a wonderful journey. She had a late diagnosis of ASD/ADHD/PTSD after a pretty big burnout. We have had ups and downs during the past 2 years with her discovery that she is not broken and not having to mask up, we have been to counseling. Me on the other hand is struggling to find my way, I have a narcissist mother, feel emotionally disconnected from family and friends and really just can’t find my mojo for much at all really these days, this impacts our connection greatly. Emotionally I am struggling to just get through my days. I have just started talking to a psychologist so I’m hopeful they can help me combat my inner self demons. I guess what I’m asking is when do you know you are done in a relationship.. even though I love her greatly we just can’t seem to get that once truly connection back again and maintain it 

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Croix
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Dear Tillie2~

I'd like to give you a warm welcome to the Forum. It was a good choice becuse if you look around you may find out how others coped in similar circumstances

 

To have wife for 13 years is a wonderful thing and I'd treasure it. As you would expect during that time there are going ot be difficult patches, and it sounds like you are going though one now.

 

You asked "when do you know you are done in a relationship.?"  I can't give you an exact answer but notice that you come from an abusive background, and can't feel connection with anyone or feel enthusiasm for anything. . Naturally this affects your relationship.

 

This seems rather like when my depression was in a big downer. I too felt nothing, had no motivation and wanted to leave what I had. Getting clinical support - and from my family - made a huge difference and now my relationship and other things are good.

 

May I suggest you give your psychologist time to start to be effective and not make any  decisions in the meantime. I found my decision making was pretty bad until I improved.

 

If you have not done so already do you think you might talk with your wife and explain it may be an illness rather than the relationship that is making things difficult?

 

You know you will always be welcome here

 

Croix