Hi there. It's so sad your counsellor cancelled at this particular time. It would feel like another 'kick in the teeth'. It's good you recognize it was not a personal attack on you. With your ex partner 'moving on', unfortunately this is typical behaviour for these type of people. I was recently 'scammed' from an o/seas unknown. He said all the right things to make me feel special, then put the 'bite' on me. When I refused, the amount of verbal abuse was unreal. Conmen are like this, they see what they believe is an easy target and they use every trick in the book to get what they want. They appear charming, loving, till you say 'no', then they will resort to anything including, in your case, stealing. From what you say, he's already moved on to his next target/victim. He most likely will try the same scenario with money/physical/emotional problems. He sounds as though he's used his emotional problems as a weapon for sympathy. Sorry about this, but he is no great loss. Nothing you have said re: his mental state can justify his actions. Everyone here has emotional problems to some degree. To use them like that is not on under any circumstances.
Lynda.
