My wife Left me Sept 21st
I think with people like that they have made the choice to cheat and you were the one hurt. BUT now you have taken some power back and are controlling YOUR life (and your sons) and I don’t think they cope with that well. I say if no contact with her if what you truly want, stick to your guns. I know Rx was saying about trying to involve her when it comes to her son but she has to be willing to do that for her son not to get close to you or string you along.
Looking back on the week and a half where you had no contact, were you happier? Knowing she wasn’t going to contact you?
So you’re the B plan... how do you feel about that? Do you want her back? It’s a hard situation Brad 😕 maybe instead of just telling her you don’t want contact from her you need to meet with her and set some ground rules? Let her know you’re being serious. Be strong and don’t answer her calls unless it’s in an allocated time set for her to talk to her son? I think some structure would be benifical (and it would give you a bit of peace from wondering when she is going to call) and she needs to understand that she can’t always have what she wants, you are a person who has feelings too. You matter. You should be someone’s plan A not plan B. Be strong Brad, you’ve been so strong so far.
I’m not sure that’s a good plan Brad. You shouldn’t have to settle for someone if you can’t cross the path of some who values you. These things don’t happen over night. How can you be fully open to meeting someone new when she occupies some of your mind? I look at how long it took me to meet my ex husband and my ex Mr. M, didn’t happen over night and maybe you need some more you time. I get the loneliness, it sucks not having that connection with someone but wouldn’t you want a connection with someone to be real? Not just a plan B?
If you couldn’t care less about her then why would you want her? Even as a back up plan?