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My girlfriend of 5 years left me because she dosnt know if she loves me or not
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My girl friend of 5 years moved to her mums almost 2 weeks ago she said she dosnt know if she loves me anymore and she needs space to figure out what she wants it’s so hard not to check in on her every day we have done everything together for 5 years barely bin apart she is my rock and I am hers I havnt bin the easiest to deal with I have anxiety and depression and can be quite overwhelming sometimes she has bin amazing through it all
she has her family im left in our house alone all I can see is memories of her every where I look
she called the other day basically said it was over then a few days later told me it could take weeks months even years for her to come back
I want to fight for her because she is my soul mate but I know I am definitely pushing her away by doing this the worst thing is I know that she is hurting to and I can’t do anything about it there has bin no discussion about why or what problems she was having it just happened and because I have no answers I’m making scenarios in my head sending my self mental I tryed speaking to mates they all did not help they basically said she hasn’t bin the same since she started her new job are you sure she hasn’t found someone els
I was slowly getting my life back on track after my brothers death a year ago now this has brought every thing back the one person I speak to about my problems and I can’t I need help I don’t know what to do or think
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Hi Beau22
my heart and thoughts go out to you right now.
Reaching out to family and friends, and posting here are all good steps. Sure, perhaps you have made some emotional mistakes since the separation but that is understandable (so long as you have not broken the law). 100%, this will be one of the toughest times of your life. Personal relationships, as the name suggests, are very personal and it’s very difficult for anyone else to fully understand. Friends and family always mean well, and whilst their advice at times isn’t always the best, their hearts are always in the right place.
I am personally going through a long term relationship separation right now, and there are good days but most certainly bad ones. I just let my emotions roll, and keep moving.
Please, please keep talking. To anyone who cares to listen, it might not feel like it but it IS helping. If you haven’t been to a GP, I urge you to consider it as they are very understanding and can get you into a mental health plan and referral to a psychologist.
I have done this, and not embarrassed to tell anyone.
- It’s not weak to get help.
- You’re no less a man for seeking help.
And lastly. This bit is the hardest. Give her space, respect her wishes.
I get it, she’s also your best friend and closet confidant. The only one who you want to talk to right now. But for the right now this is what is it, and know there are many people in this world here to support you - both people you know, and complete strangers like me here tonite.
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Thank you I will be seeing the gp this week and hopefully keep moving forward this is a very confusing time for me and I really appreciate the guidance