my cup is empty
im 28 yeara old , engaged with two yong children. 3 years ago my father died and i dont quite understand the greif , it doesn’t feel normal. i replay the weeks/days leading up to his death over and over in my head and it hurts all the time. on the other hand my partner is a chronic pain sufferer. this has become increasingly difficult on me and my family, including my poor fiancé. he has told me if its too much that he understands if i need to leave . but i don’t believe this is the answer to my problems. im exhausted. i dont know how to make things better, i cant fix any of this . i need to br a mum first and foremost and the rest ive got no idea
Thank you for your honest and open post around your difficulty in overcoming the grief of the loss of your father. We offer our condolences to you and your family. We can hear that you are having a really tough time at the moment, we want you to know that it is ok not to feel ok. Have you been able to reach out to any supports such as a psychologist or a GP?
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Hello Tashi, I'm really sorry to hear about your dad passing away and nobody can ever predict how long these feelings of your loss will last, unfortunately, but slowly over time what you’re experiencing will lessen as you accept the loss but he will always be your dad as well as a granddad.
I agree that leaving would not solve the problem, simply because you keep thinking about your dad and if you do go then the same problem will happen thinking about your finance, then you will have two problems that you reminisce about.
I'm not a doctor but can I suggest PTSD which can be treated by a psychologist, so ask your GP about the 'mental health plan', perhaps once this is overcome then you might feel stronger to get on with your life.
Your children if they are suffering can contact Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 by phone, webchat or online and these people adapt to whatever age your children are.
Can I ask whether your partner is receiving help for this chronic pain.
Hope to hear back from you.