I will start with background, I am an ex Australian Rep Triathlete. I now work as a QLD Firefighter and Irrigation Manager on a big farm. I have buried 2 of my 3 children, witnessed so much in my fire-fighter role. My wife is OCD and suffers so much from loosing our 2 boys that she has as much PTSD as myself. She doesn't relise that she has has fallen into coercive control. She works 2 days a week and I work 2 jobs over 60 hrs and have a $50 spend limit. I can't see friends until it's the weekend and everyone is in bed. I have to let her know every where I work during the day and if I am 30min late I have lied to her and cop an argument the size of the horse of Troy. She doesn't relise what is happening and if I bring it up she says the door is there. We have been married 18 years. I don't know where else to go and I am starting to drink more to escape.
