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I still hate being a parent after 6 yeara

claire84
Community Member

Help me please I’m struggling. 

I have two gorgeous girls who are 6 and 5. I love them and would hate for anything to happen to them or for them to know how I feel. 

I absolutely hate being a mother. I hate it. I hate everything about it, the constant. 

i have previously been diagnosed with PND but apparently not it’s just moved anxiety or depression. 

I just don’t know what to do. I’m still on anti depressants and I don’t really feel they are working. What am I supposed to do? Is this life? 

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Sophie_M
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Moderator
Dear Claire84
 
Thank you for showing such courage in posting and sharing your experience.  We are a helpful and supportive community here, and you are very welcome.
 
We can hear just how important your girls are to you Claire84, however also how the everyday roller coaster of being a mother is impacting on the way you are feeling.  Have you spoken with your GP about how you are feeling?  It may be time for a review of your overall health, including medication, which despite its benefits, can sometimes impact on our ability to feel or be present.  Furthermore, as mothers, we often forego the importance of addressing our own needs which only adds to that sense of ‘constant’ you referred to.  Very often, those feelings are a product of our environment, no reflection of you as a person, or the beautiful mother that you are.
 
In addition to speaking with you GP, friends, or family, taking care of yourself is so important; reaching out for support is a big part of this, a step you have taken by reaching out here so please give yourself the credit you deserve.  We would love to invite you to give our fully qualified counselling team a call, we are here 24/7 and can be contacted either by telephone on 1300 22 4636 or via our WebChat  to talk about how this is impacting on you and to explore options for additional support and self-care.
 
Once again, please be kind to yourself, thanks for sharing and for starting this conversation. We hope that you find some comfort here in the words of wisdom and kindness that our community can offer, and please feel free to keep us updated on how you're going, whenever you feel up to it.
 
Regards
 
Sophie M