My husband had been chatting to another woman online from Columbia for about 4 months.
He fell asleep with his phone open and I saw the texts and pictures that were exchanged that were from a somewhat explicit nature.
I was heartbroken seeing the messages and the pictures that I had never seen before.
The pictures were not fully naked ones, I didn’t see any fully naked pictures and this is what he told me also.
But the conversations were not only explicit but they were telling eachother they loved each other and missed each other. Conversations that him and I had when we first met.
He said that she didn’t mean anything to him and it was all fake. He said that she couldn’t speak English and half the time was spent translating their messages.
He was very sorry for hurting me, and he said that he did it because he was lonely and stressed.
He doesn’t deem it as cheating because they weren’t physical, he had no intention of meeting her and he doesn’t even deem it as a fantasy. We have had countless arguments since it happened.
I found his phone on our 10th anniversary, which made it worse.
It’s been one month and 17 days since it happened. He has since cut off all communication with her on that very day that I found his phone. But he didn’t tell her he was married out of fear that she might send his pics out on the internet. He said that he messaged her and thanked her for her time but he had to go and couldnt talk to her anymore, and then blocked her.
He also said to me that he wished he never met her as she ruined his life. He says loves me and really wants to work on our marriage.
I don’t know what to do, I can’t stop crying and I’m second guessing myself and my appearance. My self esteem has plummeted, I feel numb and now I feel like I’m suffering depression. Even as i type this out, I can’t stop the tears from falling.
I’ve not been myself since and don’t know what to do….Please help!
