Hi,
I will try and
keep this semi short, but here it is
My partner and I
have been together for nearly 8 years, I have a 11yo from a previous encounter (partner
came into the picture when my son was 4yo and he has been daddy ever since) and
we have a 4yo daughter together.
My son has previously
been diagnosed ADHD and has been medicated for the last couple of years.
The crux of everything
really is that my partner doesn’t feel like myself or my parents (who look
after the kids during the week while we are at work) are punishing my son
effectively. He feels that my son pretty much gets away with everything and
there are no consequences to his actions.
I admit that I probably
haven’t been as effective In punishment as I could be and I am looking to get
it rectified. I try not to use it as an excuse, but I have tried to explain to
my partner that I have been doing the best that I can, considering I work full
time and I am also the one that cooks and does the household stuff, I get
tired!!
Now here is what
my main issues is, my partner has basically said that because of the ongoing
issues with my son and his behaviour, it is affecting his relationship with me!
There is no
affection whatsoever between us, I gave up a while ago trying for any intimacy
at all (this includes things like hand holding, cuddling etc) and feel like we
are pretty much housemates living together.
Added factors
include my partner working away regularly and having medical conditions that
does make him tired.
Now my question
is, is he using the issues with my son as an excuse not to deal with the
relationship? He seems to think that once we get things sorted with my son, our
relationship will get back on track.
My feeling is
that even though we are going through things with my son, it shouldn’t stop us
from having our relationship, being together and being intimate!
I am at a loss
and could use someone’s
advice.
P.s-i am going back to the paediatrician for further advice, partner doesnt want to
