Hi Anie,
I have recently ended a 31 year relationship, I ended it because I realised my partner and I had grown apart, that we were no longer on the same page and our values, interests and everything had changed and we were just two people living in the same house with little or no connection anymore. However when I said enough, there was a little part of me that didn't want it to end, a part of me that wanted her to take me in her arms and say, I am so sorry, I dont want to break up with you, I want to fix this relationship and live happily ever after with you. But of course that didn't happen. We are both hurting but each day the hurt gets less. I am learning to let go and I beleive that is the most important thing but letting go isnt just letting that person leave but letting go of the pain, the anguish, the thought patterns and learning some self love. Easy said, harder to do but in time the pain will go away. Think of it like this, you said you had major surgery. Does your surgical wound hurt as much today as it did on the day you had the surgery? No? Because it is healing, the pain abates in time, the would heals and yes you are left with a scar but even that fades with time.
Sorry I cannot offer more and it may sound like platitudes but take it day by day, go for walks in a different place, if you live by the sea, take a trip to the mountains and vice versa. If you have a dog, go to a new dog park away from your usual area. Take the kids on a fun day out to a place none of you have been before. Indulge yourself in some self love, new hair cut, new clothes. Take care of you. Lee
