Half Sister Stalking me

[Bill of Silence]

I have a half-sister to whom is a psychologist and since my father passed away in 2017, she has interfered with myself getting my father's inheritance. Now she is accusing me of stalking her, after i contacted her workplace, she is abusing her workplace and their reputation by her using their letterheads in her emails. 

She has abused everyone helping me and obtained over 300 emails from the Public Trustees to accuse me of breach of the stalking caution, when it is the opposite. As she is a psychologist everyone does what she wants, even the Police. I told the Police these emails are confidential and private and cannot be used as evidence. As they are to do with my father's inheritance as this half-sister is not related to him. 

Again, a Hostile brother sends her an email with no mention of her name but the Police Assume it was about her and use it as evidence against me. As she is a psychologist the Police Always side with her.

Over her actions after 2017 she has put me in hospital and driven me to a state of Suicidal Tendencies and the Hospital psychologist can see what she is doing is illegal. That now after getting mental health support and I feel a lot better, by just ignoring her and blocking all contact with her. 

My Late father's friend can see that I have done nothing wrong, but she will not stop stalking me until I am deceased, so she claims my father's inheritance. I am Happy and enjoying my life and this Angers her, and I have a lot of support. 

Not going to waste more money on Solicitors. So, I am waiting to see how this develops. 

Has anyone got any advice what to do? I just cannot escape her and as she is a psychologist it makes it harder. 

[Croix]

Dear Bill of Silence~

Welcome here to the support Forum, I'm glad you came as you may look around and see how others have coped.

Issues over deceased estates can bring out the most toxic side of people and I would like to suggest that your own mental well-being is by far the most imortant thing. Even if you realy need the estate it does come before that.

You said that you have been hospitalized and thought of taking oyur life. Your mental health overrides all.

Blocking her and ignoring her while having support sounds by far the most sensible thing you can do at the  moment. The only thing I'd suggest is that if you are served with any kind of document or notice you do seek legal advice, otherwise it can be easy to let something slip though that may be to your detriment.

May I ask if you are having to face all this alone, or have you someone to lean on? A family member or friend perhaps? Just talking frankly to a sympathetic ear can help.

Croix

[Bill of Silence]

Thanks for replying to my post Croix. 

I am alone and fumbling through this mess at this point. My former mental health support worker taught me to relax and find distractions to stop worrying. Being that I now live in a retirement village I have lots of company and people I can go too if I feel lonely.

But lately it has been creeping back. Being a New Year I am not going to let this matter put me back in depression or suffering in my former state of mind. I play computer games if I feel angry and it helps me calm down. 

When you have suffered through losing your father to whom I was very close and then pushed out of the only home I ever knew, I am now fighting back. 

I also have uncontrollable high blood pressure and the cardiologist told me I strong heart, but I need to get rid of all this stress and anxiety. 

The Village Manager is good she has been through this too. And she told me I am going to have make some hard decisions if I want to be peaceful. Although I have plenty of people around myself. It does play on your mind, and I only get 1-2 hours sleep at night as my mind wonders. 

[Croix]

Dear Bill of Silence~

I'm glad you have people around you and that the village manager has some experience too. (No I'm not glad she had the experiencing herself 😕  Just that there is someone near you wiht understanding).

If you don't mind me asking what were the hard decisions you mentioned?

I'm not in the least surprised your mind keeps getting drawn back to the death of your father and being pushed out of your home, two very hard things to cope with.  I find the middle  of the night is a time when such thoughts become more overpowering, and sleep elusive.

Sitting up or being in bed with those thoughts simply makes matters harder, at least for me things magnify in the silence. Can I ask what sort of strategies you use in the middle of the night when you can't go to sleep or wake up after an hour or two?

Croix

[Bill of Silence]

Hello Croix,

Thank you for replying. I think the hard choices were around my hostile half-sister and my siblings. Would you prefer your siblings and all these problems, your peace. 

Partially deaf is also another problem as sometimes hearing issues can be a problem, even though I am wearing hearing aids. 

Well sleeping problems, I have always had them in my life. For getting back to sleep meditation is the answer, or just put the radio on your clock on low. It gives you something to focus on and you fall asleep a lot easier. 

My first step to getting back on the track was when I was in Hospital. A nurse from Thailand told me my heart is angry and needed to be calm. I had to get rid of that Anger I held in me since my Father passed away. I just relaxed and let no one come near me that was hostile, it something I still do today. 

All my siblings attacked me after my father passed away, they are now in outer regions never to come near me again. Unless it is on my terms. 

It does help to talk rather that bottling those feelings inside you. 

[Croix]

Dear Bill of Silence~

It sounds as if you have made you choice, and that is not to have people around that are going to be aggressive, selfish and very upsetting. While the idea of family can be very attractive, often it is not the  real family, but one composed at least in part of wishful thinking.

If you can stick to your terms about allowing contact that sounds as good as it gets.

I had a lot of anger at one stage, but it was against people that had done me harm and not against fate or the death of a loved one.. It eventually went away, though while it was there it was useful, allowed me to do things I'd normally be too retiring to do.

While I use meds to promote sleep it's often not enough and I use a free smartphone app called Smiling Mind to change my mindset and leave me calm. It has exercises for just about everyone - though it did take practice before I started to get benefit from it.

I hope to hear from you again

Croix

[Bill of Silence]

It seems last Thursday I was almost at that stage of making a fatal decision. if it was not for the mental health triage and a lawyer, by contacting the police.

After 5 years of suffering everyone can see what I am going through, and it has nothing to do with myself. 

Going to see a mental health specialist on Tuesday to get myself back on my feet. As it will be hot, they will send a car to pick me up and return me back home. 

All I want is peace so I can recover from my mental health issues and lead a better life. Damn Public Trustees will not get off my back. So too stop the Public Trustees claiming my pension, I cancelled it. My only form of income but it was the only way to stop them as they get court orders to bypass you.