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Ever since me and my husband have been together there was always fighting. When I was pregnant with my daughter i caught him messaging other women trying to have physical relations 1 week before our honeymoon i had a women msg me and tell me he was messaging her on a dating app.
He was always angery and abusive, we got toxic, I got cancer and he got worse and worse I couldn't handle it so i left. He told me it was his wake up call and he would get help to do what he can to change and be a better person for me and the kids.
Last week I found out he was on dating apps and had slept with someone.
I thought leaving was the right thing to do, I stayed for as long as I could because I loved him. I didn't really think he would change but I didn't think he would move on to someone else still while telling me he loves me.
He said it was a mistake and he regrets it and he only wants me and loves me and wants us to be a family.
But I don't think I can ever forgive or forget anything he has ever done to me especially when I had cancer.
I don't know why I'm really writing this here maybe to get someone else's opinion because I honestly don't know what to do because I wanted our family so bad it's so hard to think of selling our family home and actually getting a divorce.
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Hello and Welcome.
It sounds like you’ve been dealing with so much pain for a long time, and I can’t imagine how hard it must be to feel torn between wanting your family and the hurt caused by your husband’s actions. Given all that you have been through, I feel you deserve more than feeling betrayed and disrespected.
With that said ... I can understand how you would struggling to forgive him - especially after everything that’s happened. Trust is so hard to rebuild once it’s been broken, and it sounds like it’s been broken in so many ways.
There is no wrong way to process what has happened and move on. That is, you work with whatever information is available to you and make that decision. It's important you listen to yourself. It’s okay to feel confused and unsure. It’s okay to need time to process what’s happened. You are going through alot and deserve space to determine what's best...
No matter what you decide, remember you don’t have to carry all of this alone.