Do I confront my cheating dad, or do I tell mum

[WiltedRose]

My dad’s personality has been changing over the last couple of years, he’s becoming narcissistic and he’s not very nice to mum anymore. He’s gone on 2 solo trips overseas and a boys trip to Thailand in the last 18 months. After several red flags that he was being unfaithful to mum I decided to check his phone and got the proof that he has cheated on the boys trip. I believe he also did on the solo trips but didn’t have time to look through everything. I don’t want to rip my family apart by confronting him, but my mum also deserves so much better. But she’s so happy with her life right now (not so much with dad, but with the lifestyle), and I don’t want to ruin that for her. Do I just leave it and let the secret eat me alive? Do I confront dad and tell him to tell mum? And if I confront him what on earth do I say?  Or do I tell mum? Please help 😞

[Janey_beyond]

Hey there,

I have also struggled in a similar boat when I was younger. My mother was having an affair and when my dad found out it tore our family apart. I am so sorry you have been put in the middle of this, no one should ever have to experience it. My advice to you is to honestly talk with your dad. No need to be aggressive or confrontational, but simply be honest with him. If your mother becomes aware of the situation, be there for her to support her. It will not be an easy thing for either of them and especially you. If there is cheating going on in a relationship, usually the relationship is already broken. If things get particularly hard, please reach out to someone❤️