Dealing with separation from grandchildren.

[KezzaJ]

Hello all. I'm a grandmother who has very recently become involved in the separation of my son & his long time partner & now I don't know what to do as I have no one to talk to about how to proceed. The separation is becoming quite heated as is the often the case with both parties inevitably ending up being the victims. My point is that I am being prevented from seeing my grandchildren & this is very distressing. I have had to take time off work because I am so upset about what is going on & how a person can be so vindictive & cruel to the people who have given nothing but love & respect. I can't afford to seek private legal services but am unsure about accessing legal aid. I'm so worried that all of this is going to go very badly for my son & that he will be the biggest loser in the end because the lawyer he has engaged doesn't seem to feel that there is any urgency in getting things in motion & that I won't be able to see my grandchildren as often. Where do I go from here? Who do I contact other than a counselling service?

[white knight]

Hi, welcome 

Seeking legal avenues, sadly, in your case will be wasted money and your granddads mother will resent you.

Your sons lawyer is working with a system you cannot speed up, hence the appearance of slow pace. There's nothing your son can do about that.

There is one chance for you. Contact the children's mother with the only endeavour- to see your grandchildren. If you don't get involved eith yhe issue your son and her have, there is a chance she will see the benefits for the kids

 Also if you mention that you are available to leave the kids with you if she wanted a night out or a weekend away, she might need you. 

My ex partner did all of the above and for some months looked after the kids while her son visited to see them. It might not be possible in your case though.

I've always said "if the grandparents remain cordial with their DIL OR SIL life can be sweeter.

TonyWK