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Daughter has cut me off completely from grandkids
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I cannot stop thinking of them and I cry- they are so sweet and innocent. It's all I can think about!
A miracle is needed! Dear Lord please grant me this miracle somehow.
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Hi, welcome
I must say that HEARTCENTRES first post was a beauty, please read that one again Anita.
I do feel you need to calm down. Your posts are full of anxiety and although quite justified- it is detrimental to your well being. In fact it is a sign of panicking and that won’t serve you well.
Heartcentre said “I have learned through my own experiences with avoidant personalities is that all I can do is re-assure them that I am always there for them, be patient, stable, understanding, resilient, compassionate and continue to believe in love.
That could be your aim. And a plan for your future is important. I want to say that your whole life seems to have included your daughter and grandchildren, while that is honourable it is also too focussed. Close friends, sports eg bowls, travel etc. a life beyond them would have been better.
I hope you utilise the next few months as a time to gather yourself with relaxation and other ways to calm down.
I also have lost a daughter to her antics.
Effectively there is near zero you can do, so worrying won’t help. Practical ideas is moving forward
Use search to find this thread
worry worry worry
regards
TonyWK
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Hey Anita-K
I'm very sorry this has happened to you, you really seem like a great grandmother and confused about what's happening.
I'm actually in your daughter's position right now except my first us on the way. My mother didn't help me escape my ex and doesn't understand the ongoing consequences I have faced nor the stress of it, I wish I had anymore understanding mother like you.
All I can say is she's been through a lot by the sound of things and really needs time to find her own footing in life and with her children.
Maybe take some time to examine some strategies when she lets you back in, she probably will.
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Hi again
Your first post didn’t include a lot of other information that you’ve now included like your chronically ill son and other grandkids. This changes things.
How close are you emotionally to your other grandkids? If close would you move to Canberra?
See grandparents have no rights and grandparents are not the parents of their grandchildren, often they can intrude and not realise it. Your daughter is the parent so she can remove you from her and her children’s lives- just a fact.
As for her previous marriage I would never judge someone else’s marriage eg “..divorced her very kind and loving husband for no reason anyone could see” - is this, or other reasons why she has fled? I ask this purely because it is unusual for zero reasons she has removed you. Very unusual but possible.
Would it be worth writing a nice letter just asking her to explain to you what the problem is? If she does write back it will give you some comfort knowing why. But it is all too fresh at the moment. I’d wait for a couple of months until she might miss your support and company.
Grief of this situation is not easy to live with. I hope you feel better soon
TonyWK
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Hi, welcome
Unfortunately private contact between members is not possible on this anonymous forum.
However, if you wish to start up your own thread then please do so and it will be answered.
TonyWK
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Kindly, I think the answer may be in your post: she did divorce her "very loving kind husband." If you are still on talking terms with your ex son in law, maybe via a rumour it has got back to your daughter and she doesn't want to confront you about it as it is just too sensitive and emotional. It can cause issues when family members stay in close ties with their children's/brother/sister in laws. Maybe write her a letter?
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