Concern about my girlfriend and finances

[Guest_77258096]

I have had this celibate girlfriend for 35 years. I cant get around to marrying her for many reasons. She is an alcoholic now after not confronting mental health issues and she has wasted two inheritances and is about to receive another. I basically help her manage her finances but she gets very distant when she has a a windfall. How can I learn to deal with my situation?

[Sophie_M]

Hi there,  

Welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing this here. You've taken a great step in coming here to seek support regarding your relationship, it's not easy to share but we're glad you could open up about what has been going on for you.

We can hear that you are concerned about your girlfriend, it's difficult to watch someone we care about grow distant with us. If you feel comfortable maybe you could share your feelings with your girlfriend, you are concerned because you care for her. You could also speak to Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277. They also have some great advice on their pages, such several on communication in relationships.  

It sounds like it's having an impact on how you're feeling day to day, so please know that there’s always someone here for you to talk it through with. The Beyond Blue counsellors are available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or online, here. 

Thanks again for sharing, please know you can always update us to let the community know how you are going.

Kind regards,  

Sophie M