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Bringing up serious topics

_Gigi_
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I've been formally diagnosed with depression, but haven't told anyone. I'm not sure I can hide it much longer though, without being figured out. How do you tell family that you have depression? Serious discussions make me super uncomfortable, and I'm not sure they would take it well either. How do I broach the subject?

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Croix
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Dear _Gigi_

Welcome back to the forum, I hope thinks have been OK for you in the meantime. I"m sorry to hear you have depression, though I"m glad it has been properly diagnosed. Your past post have sometimes been how you feel depressed, now, like me, you can not it is not just you, it is hte illness responsible for a lot of things you feel and so. 

 

My depression is pretty well under control, though I still take medications and have therapy, I do however live an enjoyable and active life.

 

If oyu have had a discussion wiht you doctor and have been diagnosed you have already faced a pretty scary conversation.

 

Hoy you tell your family may depend a lot about thier view =s on mental health issues, though if you are loved that makes a huge difference. I would suggest that you might talk to whichever person in your family would be most open to hearing you and understanding. After that you have an ally. Do emphasis this is a formal diagnosis and not something you have decided for yourself. you may even wish to invite someone to see your doctor with you to get a fuller explanation.

 

Beyond Blue has tips on talking about depression, even though they may be more slanted to help a worried patient they are worth a read. In fact it can be  good way of introducing family member to the problem if they read it.

 

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/support-someone/how-to-help-someone-with-anxiety-or-depres...

 

If your family is close they may well suspect something of this nature anyway due to how you have been  in the past. They may even be worried if they are doing the right thing. Having it out in the open might be better for them as well as you.

 

Do oyu think htere is osmeone you could tell, even if it is just by showing the Beyond Blue page and taking it from there?

 

Croix

 

Hi Croix, 

Thank you for your reply; it means a lot to me to be able to get someone else's opinion on this. I suppose an added challenge of my situation is that my family life is very problematic. I can think of one person who might be a good choice to start with though, and I really like your idea of bringing them to talk with my doctor. I will try this advice, so thank you again for suggesting it.

-Gigi

Dear _Gigi_

I like the idea of just you choosing one person to understand what is happening to you, there wil probably assays be mixed reactions from some family members.

 

Getting a doctor to explain can have lot of advantages. I remember when I was in  pretty bad way my partner kept thinking the fault was hers, not giving me enough support, not being sexy enough and many other matters. It was only after it was explained to her that my behaviour was pretty standard PSTD/Depression symptoms and nothing to do with  her htat she changed and became confident, happier in herself and able to concentrate on what I needed and looking after herself..

 

Croix