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BeyondBlue Hey there - read this to see what this section is all about
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Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a ... View more

Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a negative way. As always, we want to hear your story and how it impacts you and encourage everyone to support each other with kindness. There are a few things to consider when posting in this section so we can all get the most out of it: Everyone’s situation is unique. We all do our best to share what is important in our story but we can never share it all. Let’s be mindful we can’t know all of everyone’s story. Anonymous but public. These posts are available to everyone and while the moderation team keeps the Forums anonymous, posts are still online for everyone to read. Have a think about what you want to share to get the best support for you. Please stay safe. This space is an amazing way to seek support from others who might understand what you are going through. We want to hear how you are going and what is happening for you. Please also consider 1800RESPECT if you don’t feel safe or 000 if you are in danger right now. You deserve to be safe. Thank you again for joining this conversation, your contributions are worthy and important to us here. Beyond Blue

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Em_ My story
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I've been friends with this girl for a few years and recently everything has been going downhill. It started small, little comments, I've had issues with my weight and how I look for a while as well as struggling with mental health issues, and my fri... View more

I've been friends with this girl for a few years and recently everything has been going downhill. It started small, little comments, I've had issues with my weight and how I look for a while as well as struggling with mental health issues, and my friend has been commenting on my weight. About a month ago I was in a bad place with my mental health (and she knew it because I confided in her) and she told me to kill myself. This made my mental health even worse. I don't talk about mental health issues much with my parents and I was scared on how they were going to react so I got up the courage an told my mother what happened. She ended up telling my father and he called me out, it thought I was going to get into trouble, he ended up telling me that I had to tell someone at school (all that happened Friday). So on Monday I went to the office and talked to someone there. They told me they would talk to the girl about what happened and told me to ignore her (I can't really because she's in my class). A few hours later they called me back to the office to tell me that she didn't remember what she said and got off scot free. I ended up also talking to my year advisor as well as someone from my school's wellbeing hub. Today at school a boy in my class called me racist for no reason (he asked the girl why we weren't friends anymore and she said that I was racist, never was never will be) and I went to the office and someone from the wellbeing hub came down to get me and I spent the whole of recess and third period in the wellbeing hub calming down and reading. I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I needed to get it off my chest. I need help to know what to do next if I need to talk to anyone

Weaponsofmassdisstortion Something I regret....
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You know, looking back I have missed out on a lot of chances for creating freindships. There was people back in my high school years who tried to reach out to me. I think they were geniune, because they never tried to make things hard for me I rebuke... View more

You know, looking back I have missed out on a lot of chances for creating freindships. There was people back in my high school years who tried to reach out to me. I think they were geniune, because they never tried to make things hard for me I rebuked thier advances, I didn't want their pity. I didn't need their companionship. I cursed them out. Told them in quite langauge to go away. I have done something like this even more recently. I wish I could go back and apologise. Let them know I just saw everyone as another source of pain. I was bieng bullied quite severly. I didn't want to go to school. But I didn't want to go home either. I was in pure survival mode. My defense were always up. I was full of rage. Because that was better than being sad. God I am so sorry to those people. But they probably have lives of their own now and I doubt they even give me a second thought.

booga need help apologising to an ex friend
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almost a year ago, a friend and i fell out and had an argument. we havent talked in nearly a year, n this past year ive realised how bad of a friend ive been to him (ive said awful things to him, treated him unfairly etc) however, im not interested i... View more

almost a year ago, a friend and i fell out and had an argument. we havent talked in nearly a year, n this past year ive realised how bad of a friend ive been to him (ive said awful things to him, treated him unfairly etc) however, im not interested in going back to being friends with him because at times hes made me feel uneasy.now, this isnt to say im a victim, if anything i was worse to him than he was to me, and i dont really want to repeat the things ive said to him because it disgusts me how i behaved to him.to the point, im afraid to apologise. i want to be better and the first step is to apologise to those ive wronged. however, i dont know how he'll react to it, and i struggle with paranoia and a particular worry i have is that he'll hurt me if i apologise (i doubt he will but again, paranoia)i have the apology written as a draft on my old school email, but im scared to click send. i just want this niggling guilt off my shoulders and i dont know if hes moved on or not and if i should just let it be

Heartbreakoz Dumped after 39 Years
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Found out my Partner is having an affair and sending money to a Thai Bar Girl and even just bought her an IPhone 17 pro only found out by accident when I was paying Bills when he went away in August and there was a strange name on one of his Transfer... View more

Found out my Partner is having an affair and sending money to a Thai Bar Girl and even just bought her an IPhone 17 pro only found out by accident when I was paying Bills when he went away in August and there was a strange name on one of his Transfers after a bit of digging found a photo online of her in his Hotel Room. I confronted him and he said so what they didn’t have sex and I could leave if I wanted says he wasn’t going to change the worst part is that he was supposed to be over there arranging a memorial for my late Son who died of Suicide 27 Years ago at the Soi Dog Foundation where my Partner was Volunteering. He’s now going back again in November for 3 weeks. I’m destroyed inside and don’t know what to do or how to feel it’s such a betrayal for my Son’s Memory it’s tainted The Memorial Plaque for me feel like I’ve lost my Son a second time. I am not Suicidal as I wouldn’t want to give my Partner the satisfaction of having my half of everything we established together to share with his whore.

Guest_46033237 Deeply hurted
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Does anyone feel the same as me , although live with family, but feel unsupported, uncared , unloved

Does anyone feel the same as me , although live with family, but feel unsupported, uncared , unloved

Tina77 Broken
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I'm tired. I'm stressed. I'm broken inside and out. Noone to turn to. Just angry. Thoughts of what if.

I'm tired. I'm stressed. I'm broken inside and out. Noone to turn to. Just angry. Thoughts of what if.

listeningmind Mid life blues
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I’ve always had a very busy career but also have been the primary care giver to 3 children my husband has taken a more passive parenting role the 2 eldest kids have left and the youngest has ADHD but doesn’t take his meds, spends most time at gfs who... View more

I’ve always had a very busy career but also have been the primary care giver to 3 children my husband has taken a more passive parenting role the 2 eldest kids have left and the youngest has ADHD but doesn’t take his meds, spends most time at gfs whose mother completely enables a sleep all day, up all night weed smoking lifestyle. He’s at uni and is over 18 but he rarely attends and i wouldn’t have a clue if he’s passing. We barely see him which hurts a lot and I know I have to let him be but it’s disappointing and I worry about his pathOur eldest has ongoing health issues needing our support but does live independently with Centrelink supportMiddle boy has just moved interstate. He has his head screwed on but I miss him a lot too My marriage has been through a really hard time in recent years with hubby having substance abuse issues, irritability and history of emotional abuse. We have been on the brink of divorce but are working with a counselor. He’s trying but I still feel he doesn’t “see me” and when I say this he has no curiosity just says he doesn’t know what it means I am the main breadwinner and take full mental load. I feel grief as the children have grown and left which of course I know is normal feelings, I just wasn’t expecting the intensity of the feelings I take HRT and know hormones may play a role I thought life was supposed to get easier and I suppose physically it has with less to juggle but I feel adrift and rejected and alone my career is demanding but successful however I’m feeling really down on myself and guilty, did I work too much when the kids were younger? We were trying to make ends meet and give them a good education I just feel so depressed sometimes ..what’s it all for? Where is the meaning? Everything just seems hard all the time.I exercise regularly, running has helped, and have extended family support and good friends but I still feel hopeless and lonely a lot of the time also teary I don’t know what I’m trying to say. Looking for solidarity I suppose and reassurance things will improve thanks

Weltschmerz Emotional abuse - 3 years into a relationship and things have changed
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I’m really sad and embarrassed and not sure if I have the strength to take action. Some context - I was recently diagnosed with PTSD due to repeated workplace bullying and I stopped working 12 months ago. I have also had trauma with repeated emotiona... View more

I’m really sad and embarrassed and not sure if I have the strength to take action. Some context - I was recently diagnosed with PTSD due to repeated workplace bullying and I stopped working 12 months ago. I have also had trauma with repeated emotional and financial abuse in my previous long term relationships, with my last husband committing suicide (10 years ago) and leaving me with huge debts. I’ve got support (GP, Clinical Psychologist) and I’m actively working to reduce my anxiety and depression. I am now into a 3 year relationship that I thought was going to be my last and best. He was originally super supportive and loving. Over the last month I’m seeing red flags where he has been telling me how to behave and to tone myself down (both volume and enthusiasm). I’m becoming insecure and sad and feeling that I’m defective. Im finding that we can’t have an effective discussion and he never apologies for anything. When I discuss the situations he makes it clear that he thinks I have issues and he doesn’t. He normally makes smart comments and sometimes refuses simple requests for support or assistance. He teases me incessantly and his jokes and general conversation have an hard edge to them. Our intimacy has also been impacted. This is impacting my anxiety and sadness. I’m feeling insecure and sad, and wondering if it’s time to end the relationship. Super bad timing as we have a 6 week holiday in Europe starting in a few weeks. All booked and paid for!!! Just so sad

Guest_16106532 Emotionally disconnected
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Hello everyone, I have been married to my husband for 20 years known him for 24 and I find that I wan to be away from him. I have become very emotional about him not showing me love. I ried to talk to him about it but he did not show any interest and... View more

Hello everyone, I have been married to my husband for 20 years known him for 24 and I find that I wan to be away from him. I have become very emotional about him not showing me love. I ried to talk to him about it but he did not show any interest and said I am looking fo problems like my mum. I began feeling isolated and noticing that we are not emotionally connected about a year ago. I had great doubts about our marriage at the start as there was a lot of issues with our families... We have lived through tese and now I am beginning to feel that there is no love. Ther ehas never been much love. Recently I met a kind man and this has highlighted my needs to me even more . I am in my mid 40s. Is this part of a mid life crisis or have I changed? Has any one gone through a smiliar eperience? I feel bad tht I feel this way about my husband.

Eliza1976 I think my husband is a sex addict
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My husband of 7 years has addiction problems with alcohol and sex. We are unable to have a loving sexual relationship because he is obsessed with watching porn and constantly wanting me to sleep with other men (which I won’t). When I say that I find ... View more

My husband of 7 years has addiction problems with alcohol and sex. We are unable to have a loving sexual relationship because he is obsessed with watching porn and constantly wanting me to sleep with other men (which I won’t). When I say that I find this disrespectful and disgusting he says that I am kink shaming him. I endure sex once a week and now he wants permission to sleep with other women that advertise for free sex because I don’t meet his needs. I feel so disgusted and I no longer enjoy sex and the thought of it with anyone is vile. I don’t know what to do but I can’t endure much more of this. Where can I go to get help?

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